The ANTI-Valentine's Day Thread
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Thu Feb 02, 2006 5:44 am

okay, so you've got a date or a boyfriend or a husband, and thats GREAT for you. but on top of this while us singles get double shafted - no date/bf/hub AND a reminder of this - you get double the good karma. for shame!!!
add to this that Valentine's Day is Hallmarks favourite day of the year and ur all pawns in their (already won) battle to take peoples money and contribute to their already bursting bank balances...double shame!!

so yes, this may all just be excuses for the fact that i hate you all for having someone when i don't...but with all the Valentines threads going around i thought to myself..what day of the year to single people get to celebrate..there's no card saying 'congratulations for not loving a man who is a bastard to you' or even a 'some people may have it all but they can go **** themselves' card to perk up your day.

so this is a thread for all the single girls (or guys) who while they may be looking for love (or not), can in the meantime resent rather than envy those who are basking in the glow of love and intimacy without a thought for us and only worried about what to wear on ur special date.

so vent ladies...vent.
ciao!

p.s i just know i'll probably get blasted for this.

free skin care · Thu Feb 02, 2006 6:03 am

It is just another day of the year for Hallmark (and other companies) to try and extract money from people so why bother getting annoyed about it?
Just laugh it off. Take a good look at all the soppy, kitsch Valentine merchandise available on the market and feel relieved that you aren't going to be subjected to receiving any of that overpriced rubbish.

As far as I see it, everyday is singles day. Just think, you can live as selfishly as you like. You don't have to take a partner into consideration when you make decisions. You can spend all your money on yourself and come and go as you please. You don't have to contend with all the arguments and frustration that can come hand in hand with a relationship.

(BTW, I'm not single but like you I'm not a big fan of February 14th either)

Thu Feb 02, 2006 6:06 am

i agree, i agree with everything u said about the positives of not being in a relationship and i've been a pusher of these values for many years haha.
but albiet, lack of love can make a person go crazy and so i made this thread as a chance for all the singles out there to celebrate their singledom or if they like, resent the couples...either way it works lol

free skin care · Thu Feb 02, 2006 6:14 am

St Valentine's Day leaves me cold too. It's way too commercial for my tastes.

So many women I know are obsessed about how much their boyfriends/husbands have spent on their gifts and how much they will spend in return. It's as if they feel the only way to measure love is in financial terms.

Where I come from, we tend not to be terribly romantic anyway and find all of that "sloppy" stuff a wee bit embarrassing. Laughing

We don't give or get many spoken "I love you"s, but love tends to be expressed more in practical ways to make your loved ones' lives feel a little better and a little happier. Don't let that fool you, though, the people where I was born seem tough as old boots, but they have incredibly soft hearts underneath it all. Very Happy

Thu Feb 02, 2006 7:22 am

majorb...you put that really well.

thats what i'm saying...love is a beautiful thing and a holiday isn't needed to display that in an over the top or cheesy way. love is displayed in the little things that ur one does for you.

and if you're not lucky enough to have someone (ie.boyfriend etc) Valentines Day as a concept is not really about celebrating love, but about gloating love - and as a the bible says (and no i'm not a religious person as such but this passage really does sum it up)

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud."

thats not the whole passage but i think its enough.

Well Valentines Days is doing all those things with love - boasting about it, being proud of it. When you're inlove and loved at the same time by the same person you have it all, do not be greedy and take a special day to bask in it.

okay rant over...the funny thing is i'm not a Valentines Day hater lol, hard to believe i know, but i just saw the other threads about 'what should i wear valentines day' and stuff and thought there should be an Anti-thread. every voice deserves to be heard after all lol

free skin care · Thu Feb 02, 2006 8:38 am

I too think Valentines day is over rated.
The card sales were low after Christmas and The New Year so Valentines Day was born.

I think my SO would go mad if I wasted my money on cards Laughing

He hates me buying birthday cards.
We have been together for 5 1/2 years now and the most romantic thing is to take off in the car for a drive to the seaside and huddle up against the cold whilst eating fish & Chips and breathing in the sea air.
Of course we do this all year round Wink

free skin care · Thu Feb 02, 2006 10:04 am

I've been married for 13 1/2 years and I don't think we have ever celebrated Valentines' Day. Not with gifts, cards and mandatory dates. Each day is a celebration of our love, so who needs to spend a small (or not so small with some people) fortune proving/celebrating your love??

It's just a bunch of crap.....

Lori

free skin care · Thu Feb 02, 2006 10:59 pm

Quote:

there's no card saying 'congratulations for not loving a man who is a bastard to you'

I think you need to start your own line of greeting cards - hehehe!!!

free skin care · Fri Feb 03, 2006 6:08 am

I f*ckin HATE Valentine's Day. I always wear black because I haven't had a GOOD V-day since my boyfriend dumped me at the 7th grade Valentine's dance 20+ years ago and it's been downhill ever since!!!

ETA: You know, one day I happened to be at the supermarket pharmacy picking up my migraine meds on Valentine’s Day. The pharmacy was located near the floral arrangement section and I can’t even begin to tell you how amusing it was to watch all those guys fighting over the bedraggled bouquets that were left in the bins by that time in the afternoon, frantically trying to buy some token of love (or pre-payment on some nookie) because they put it off or didn’t think about it actually being Valentine’s Day and therefore they better not come home empty-handed. It was like when you pour water (or, better yet, gasoline!) on a fire-ant mound and watch the little bastards running around the mound like crazy.... Razz

free skin care · Fri Feb 03, 2006 7:57 am

you're wicked carekate Laughing

IMHO Valentines is bullshit.

free skin care · Fri Feb 03, 2006 8:38 am

free skin care · Fri Feb 03, 2006 9:29 pm

My new beau is begging me not to wear black for our Valentine's dinner date. I told him not to hold his breath. It's my yearly protest. Anyone wearing red in my immediate presence is in grave danger. In the rival between which "holiday" is more overrated, Valentine's Day and New Years' Eve are neck and neck. Mad

Sat Feb 04, 2006 7:54 am

LandB wrote:

My new beau is begging me not to wear black for our Valentine's dinner date. I told him not to hold his breath. It's my yearly protest. Anyone wearing red in my immediate presence is in grave danger. In the rival between which "holiday" is more overrated, Valentine's Day and New Years' Eve are neck and neck. Mad

ahem...you are going on a 'Valentines Day' specific dinner date. the point of this article is to say **ck you to everything Valentines Day related...while i do appreciate ur effort to repress the 'red dress' tradition of Valentines Day, why don't u tell ur beau that a Valentines Day dinner date is just as ghastly?
ciao

free skin care · Sat Feb 04, 2006 10:09 am

micha_852 wrote:

ahem...you are going on a 'Valentines Day' specific dinner date. the point of this article is to say **ck you to everything Valentines Day related...while i do appreciate ur effort to repress the 'red dress' tradition of Valentines Day, why don't u tell ur beau that a Valentines Day dinner date is just as ghastly?
ciao

He made a special point to make reservations at the restaurant where we had our first date. He's very proud of himself for thinking of that. I just don't have the heart to protest the entire affair.... I feel like you have to positively reinforce a man's expression of sentiment. Think Pavlov's dogs. Rolling Eyes

free skin care · Sat Feb 04, 2006 3:04 pm

Right on.

I have always thought that Valentine's Day is over-rated and it's not just because I am bitter (being the single gal that I am).

I think it is a million times more romantic when a SO does something nice for you or brings you flowers out of the blue simply because he loves you rather than waiting for Valentine's Day.

It makes me sick how Valentine's Day (and other holidays esp Christmas) are commercialized owing to capitalism.

And more specifically, I think a card is a total waste of money. Perhaps I feel this way because of how I grew up... Rather than buying greeting cards, my brother and I would make our own (or make something cool in lieu of a card). The delight on my parent's faces when they were presented with hand made greeting cards/projects must have encouraged us not to bother with buying cards. If I have time I still whip out a homemade card even if it's a quick water color.

free skin care · Sat Feb 04, 2006 7:24 pm

I HATE Valentine Day too. I am single and my birthday is right after Valentine Day.

I only get roses from my parents

I hate that day so much! Sad

Sat Feb 04, 2006 8:38 pm

Laslavic wrote:

I HATE Valentine Day too. I am single and my birthday is right after Valentine Day.

I only get roses from my parents

I hate that day so much! Sad

I'm quite indifferent to it. My bday is actually ON valentine's day (which can lead to a fair bit of confusion if you actually end up getting flowers - a bit hard to figure out what the intentions were...) but the main thing that bothers me about it is that the restaurants are always booked out and very busy when I want to have a quiet bday dinner!! I don't celebrate VD myself and don't do the whole card thing. It's over commercialised and I would much prefer to get a surprise bunch of flowers than a predictable one on VD.

free skin care · Sat Feb 04, 2006 10:18 pm

I am happily in love, but I don't celebrate VD. But if it meant alot to my DH to get a card or small token I'd do it. Fortunately VD doesn't mean anything special to him.

I agree about buying greeting cards too, but my parents (who are up in age) cherish every one so I make sure I buy special cards for them.

OT, but recently I asked my brothers and sister to write their signatures on some appropriate paper that I purchased and had it professionally framed for my parents. They loved it! I hope it will become a tradition in my family to have framed signatures for generations to come. Maybe someday someone in our family years from now will have an entire family tree of signatures. You could also do this in a scrapbooking album.

My granddaughter is 4 yrs old and I recently started a project like this for her. I want her signature every year and will keep them all, have it framed and give it to her someday.

-Cheri

free skin care · Sun Feb 05, 2006 6:37 am

As a teenager I was always desperate for an anonymous valentine... that romantic though that someone (anyone? Laughing

) fancied me....

... in my 20s with my first husband it was all romance.. prezzies, chocolate, dinners...

... the thrill had worn off slightly by the time my second (and current Wink

) hubby hooked up.. but for a couple years we did the nice dinner and some lovey chocos (even though Japan has a warped sense of Valentine's day)

.. but probably for the last 3 or more years of our marraige (we are coming up to 8 years) we do absolutely nothing for Valentine's day (ah, maybe a chocloate or two).. why? well, it aint because we dont care, it is just that I dont need some "day" to tell me to be romantic. My husband and I do romantic things for each other every single day.. as the song says "each day is Valentine's day".

Oh and I spent more than my share of Valentine's without anyone "to share with" so I did something romantic for myself those years - buy yourself a gourmet dinner ... treat yourself to a day at a spa. whatever you would have wasted on a man, spend on yourself.

free skin care · Sun Feb 05, 2006 10:55 am

tiger_tim - what do you mean when you say Japan has a warped sense of Valentine's Day? It's funny but it never occurred to me that they even celebrated it there! Very Happy

free skin care · Sun Feb 05, 2006 3:37 pm

well, Valentine's Day is not for "couples" the idea is that GIRLS give chocolate to ALL the boys in their life... you are supposed to give choco to every bloke you work with/play spors with/etc. etc.

Now, we have what is called "giri" choco and "hon" choco.. which means "obligation" and "real". So to everyone at work you buy el-cheapo stuff (obligation) but if there is someone you fancy you might go out and give him a couple of pieces of Godiva (obviously REAL choco)

Then, on March 14th we have "white day", which is when the blokes are supposed to give white chocolate to EVERY girl who gave them valentine chocolate (well, that extends into all kinds of white (or blue) stuff... handkerchiefs, undies, scarves, etc.)

In my office, we have 7 guys and 7 girls.. we just pool our funds and buy one nice box of chocolate for each of the guys. But we dont get much on white day cuz the guys in my office suck.

free skin care · Sun Feb 05, 2006 3:58 pm

Wow - that really is very different than here in the US!!!! Thanks for sharing, what an interesting post.

Tue Feb 07, 2006 3:49 am

Thanks for explaining that tiger_tim - I never realised there was any difference between how VD is celebrated around the world! I think I quite like the Japanese approach. It would be nice if everyone got something on the day.

free skin care · Tue Feb 07, 2006 6:52 am

Ahem...Mabsy, you might like to re-phrase your first sentence. Or does the acronym "VD" mean something different over there than it does in the UK? LOL! Laughing

free skin care · Tue Feb 07, 2006 7:07 am

ah yes, we love to celebrate VD in our own way (pun intended Razz

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