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Wed Nov 08, 2006 5:51 pm |
I agree that you need to see a doctor and report back to us, Sally! |
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Wed Nov 08, 2006 6:07 pm |
Go to a doctor immediately. There are many things that this could be major and minor but it's best to get a good diagnosis quickly.
Do you have weakness in the hand and foot of the side your eye is droopy?
Cosmetic surgery on upper lids is not expensive and works well because any scar is in the crease. I've seen some bad lower lid jobs so I'd be more wary about doing that. |
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 3:00 am |
thank you all for your help and words of encouragement. I know I had better go and see my doctor. The only thing is because ive been through years of anorexia and depression and he knows im a complete worrier I think he will think im just being stupid again and wasting his time. Saying that if i dont go I will worry all the more. Ive really been trying to get sorted within myself since my partner went off with a 17 year old and ive been trying so hard to actually like me as a person and not keep seeing this ugly old thing when i look in the mirror. Just seems life wont let me have that chance sometimes.
I will keep you all posted
Thank you all again. You are all such kind wonderful ladies
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_________________ Sally |
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 3:27 am |
just to let you all know i have an appointment at the drs tomorrow but unfortunately i can not get in with my own dr so have to see another one
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_________________ Sally |
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 4:05 am |
BIG hug to you Sally! I'll be sure to think of you tomorrow! |
_________________ Location: Denmark. Me = 32, think I'm combo without oiliness + sometimes sensitive. Have noticed that skin doesn't heal as quickly anymore and I've developed fine lines around my eyes... Hormonal breakouts which are sometimes cystic. PCOS |
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 8:06 am |
[quote="salster68"]thank you all for your help and words of encouragement. I know I had better go and see my doctor. The only thing is because ive been through years of anorexia and depression and he knows im a complete worrier I think he will think im just being stupid again and wasting his time. Saying that if i dont go I will worry all the more. Ive really been trying to get sorted within myself since my partner went off with a 17 year old and ive been trying so hard to actually like me as a person and not keep seeing this ugly old thing when i look in the mirror. Just seems life wont let me have that chance sometimes.
Salster68 - I am a former anorexic and I understand where you are coming from. But, even a worrier and someone with depression is entitled to good medical care and it is your doctor's responsibility, duty and job to take any medical complaint you have seriously and not pooh-pooh the person who has the medical problem.
I have been where you are emotionally. Your doctor should give you some peace of mind re your problem. Go and see him and hopefully you'll be able to put this behind you. My very best to you Salster68. I've had many people who never took me seriously. So, I give you a great big hug!! |
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 8:26 am |
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I read that the menopause can make you age. This is really scaring me. It feels like my life just cant get any worse. I know its stupid to be like this when other people have far worse problems but i just cant help it. I wake up in the morning and wish I hadnt woken. |
It is not "stupid" to feel the way you do - don't discount your feelings like that I've sounded as distraught as you the last time I lopped off most of my hair ...so don't think that you are being silly for feeling so upset about your mystery condition...Just make sure you keep consulting with your doctor (why do you have to wait a few weeks before your blood test?), surround yourself with the people you care about and "treat" yourself to something if you can...be kind to yourself as you work through this...so many people bang themselves on the head (especially women!!!)for feeling frustrated or upset...so DON'T! Be gentle with yourself and really try to focus on the positive as you move through this! Let us know how you are doing - and take care.
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 9:00 am |
Hi salster68 - I wonder if your battle with anorexia could be a factor in the suspected early menopause? Being extremely thin can cause amenorrhea. And now that you've confided that you're also dealing with depression, this could explain a lot. Like some others have said, I wouldn't be surprised if Bell's Palsy couldn't be part of your problem too. Onset is quick and without warning. Symptoms can take months to subside. My sister had it years ago and it happened during a period in her life filled with stress and anxiety, which we know can affect the immune system.
I'm so glad you're finally going to see a physician about all of this! Please don't give up! If this new doctor doesn't satisfy you, don't stop there -- keep looking. Perhaps a psychiatrist could help. As MDs, they can not only treat your depression and eating disorder but also other related medical issues. Hang in there and know that we're all concerned about you, and hope that you'll feel better and enjoy happier times again before long. |
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 9:24 am |
Hi Sharky I havent had any weakness that I have noticed in my left hand or foot on that side but when ive been using my Baby Quasar I have felt that the area from my nose to mouth seems alot less firmer than my right side again and that line is more noticeable than the right side.
I was so distraught when they mentioned the early menopause to me. I guess that has made me feel older before my time plus the fact that I spent just over 13 1/2 years with someone who didnt really want to be with me. He knocked my confidence so much (and Ive never had a lot of that to begin with) but with him always going off with other women and then I finally caught him in our house with a young 17 year old it totally did the little bit of confidence i ever had and made me feel i was even mre uglier than ever. I know it was my fault for stopping with him and wasting those precious years but I guess apart of me stayed because he made me feel worthless and not good for anything. I cried for days when my dr said about the early menopause. I never had children with my ex partner because deep down I knew it wasnt right and i would always say to friends that i didnt want children but maybe I do. and now this is happening Ive felt more like hiding away. maybe with so much stress ive had this is the result. Ive really pulled myself together though. Although I still have this fat image and worry about getting fat (something which the drs said will probably stop with me now) I do eat anything and I weigh about 8 stone which is a long way off from the 4 1/2 stone i went down to just over 4 years ago. All ive wanted really is to be able to look in the mirror and actually like what I see
Trouble with me is I tend to not make a fuss at the drs cos i dont want to be a nusiance but maybe tomorrow with it being a different dr I will be able to be more positive and demanding (if thats the right word )
thanks all again. fingers crossed hey
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 11:01 am |
I think it's a good thing that you're seeing a different doctor. Just tell him/her that you want a diagnosis. That is a totally reasonable request that anyone would make. Good luck. |
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 11:11 am |
salster68 wrote: |
Trouble with me is I tend to not make a fuss at the drs cos i dont want to be a nusiance but maybe tomorrow with it being a different dr I will be able to be more positive and demanding (if thats the right word )
thanks all again. fingers crossed hey
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So glad you're going to the docs Sally!! Just a thought, maybe you can write a list of questions for the new doc. I have found that helpful when I have alot on my mind. Remember to be assertive vs demanding. The doctor is there to help you...you are never a nuisance!! HUGS to you |
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 11:17 am |
Sally, it is great that you are seeing a doctor tomorrow.
May be it is even better that it will be a different one. Talk to him, and explain everything that you are going thru, as well as all the medications you are taking. Depression has many ways to manifest itself, and may affect your hormones. Also, if you know at what age your mother, grandmothers on both sides had menopause - it may help the doctor.
Did the previous doctor had a complete hormone profile done? Did he send you to an endocrinologist? Based on what was he thinking about early menoapuase? Do talk to the doctor and ask him to explain to you what is his thinking and why.
Aside from that, if you can find a good phsychiatrist it may help you with so many things in your life - self esteem, making better choices, taking good care of yourself, etc.
Best of luck, our thoughts and prayers are with you!
Lucy. |
_________________ Early 50s, Skin: combin.,semi-sensitive, fair with occasional breakouts, some old acne scars, freckles, under-eye wrinkles; Redhead with hazel eyes |
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 12:03 pm |
Sally, you are paying the doctor to take you seriously. I am glad you are going to a different one, since you feel like your old one is treating you so badly. When you make an appointment and go in there, you deserve a qualified medical opinion, testing, and a cure, if possible. If he exhausts his medical ideas and resources (including referral to a specialist) and decides it was in your head, he should discuss that with you and refer you to a psych. (I don't think it's in your head, just for the record!)
A history of eating disorder, in my opinion, should make him examine you more closely because of the medical issues it can lead to. If you don't like the new doctor, maybe you should go doctor-shopping. You deserve a doctor who will listen to you, observe you symptoms and find out what is wrong with you! Take a picture of your eye previous to this problem to prove your point. I also agree about the list. If you have a lot of symptoms that your doctor hasn't been taking seriously, they may all be connected. Consider this a fresh start.
As for the nasty man who left you for a 17-year-old: The problem there is not with you. It was him. It is not your fault that he's an immature ass who threw away all those years of life with a warm caring and BEAUTIFUL person for a fling with someone who should be dating high school boys. His being almost a pedofile does not mean that your are old and ugly. In fact, his shortcomings do not reflect on you whatsoever! He obviously has some problems: They are not your fault or of your making. He has made them your problems, though, because they are affecting you now. Do not let this worthless unfaithful man ruin another day of your life or take another ounce of your self-esteem! He is not worth your time!
Maybe you could immerse yourself in a hobby you enjoy so that you don't dwell on it and aren't so depressed and sad. I know you like animals. Have you thought about volunteering at your local animal shelter (no-kill shelter, please!) or something like that? You could meet new friends and spend time nurturing neglected and abused animals and maybe you could begin to see the worth in yourself as you watch the animals respond to you and benefit from your care.
I also agree that you may benefit from going to a phychiatrist. Maybe it would help if you had someone to talk to who is qualified to give you sound advice and is qualified to help you try to rebulid your self-confidence and rediscover all the wonderful things about yourself so that you can enjoy your life and feel good.
Sally, we know that you are a wonderful, caring, and beautiful person!! We wish that you knew that too!
I hope your appointment goes well tomorrow. We'll be waiting for your report because we really care about you! *hugs* |
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 12:34 pm |
Tosca,that was a lovely, caring post to Sally with some good suggestions. Sally girl you are such a lovely bunny with a gorgeous smile. Just erase Mr. Pedophile from your mental frame. I am not a doc; (my elder bro is so i know at times they can seem dismissive esp if they are dealing with ALOT of patients on one day - i'll give him a swot round the ears on behalf of you )but I wish you luck in your visit.
(I saw your picture on a thread. Sally you are too cute. I am too paranoid about internet pix and my job but it is really nice to have a mental image of people you communicate with. So, you and others posting your picture too made me think I will prob put some in photobucket where i can delete!) |
_________________ 35, combo skin, can be acne prone; use Decleor, PSF 02, SKII products and anything that works including ancient voodoo hee hee. London based. |
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Thu Nov 09, 2006 2:14 pm |
Salster, pls post when you get back from the dr, as soon as you are able. I know we will all be here waiting to hear the doctors opinions. Stay strong and lean on everyone/anyone you can. Life experiences are something I majored in. hope to hear from you on the 10th. Oh just a sec, what about a dermatologist? |
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Fri Nov 10, 2006 6:36 am |
Hi everyone
I just wanted to update you on my drs appointment. I went this morning and saw a lovely dr. He is sending me for a blood test on Monday to seeif anything is going on that could cause my eye to be drooping. I told him I felt so bad about it that I have been looking on the internet about plastic surgery. He said I am too young for that.
He talked to me about the early menopause and said that as my mother went through hers at 37 it could be too that that is what is happening to me. My blood test for that is not until 7th December and then I have to wait 2 weeks for results. i told him that i have not felt 100% for the last couple of months. He listened to me and said that I should not try to worry until i get the results from the blood test. Thats a little hard for me as I explained to him that my face seems to have taken on an even older look over the past couple of months. Its like its deterioating in front of me. I know I have a problem with looking older than i am and I guess I probably do over exaggerate at times about looking older because of having no confidence and self esteem but truely I have noticed a difference just lately. I cant post any pics at the moment as I cannot download from my camera to my home computer but when i go back to work next week Ill post a couple just so that you all can see. It probably wont seem as bad to you all as you always notice things like this happening to yourself than what others do.
Thank you all again for all of the lovely messages you have left me and for all of your support. I really have never met so many lovely caring ladies, its a shame we dont all actually meet up in person. I feel I have made so many friends here at EDS and Im so truely grateful to you all for listening to me whittering on and worrying (and for all the questions I always ask over and over again
Big hugs to you all
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Fri Nov 10, 2006 6:38 am |
ooh almost forgot. I have been using the Baby Q every 4 days following the programme on the other thread by Maria. Do you think I could use it every day around my eye in the hope that it could improve the collegen and elasticity in the skin. |
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Fri Nov 10, 2006 6:53 am |
My instinct tells me not to do anything other than normal skincare until you get the results from your doctor-I know you're itching for a quick fix but you have to be patient at this point-don't do anything that may potentially aggravate the problem. I don't use the Q (yet-waiting for windfall) but I think laying off it is better right now. |
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Fri Nov 10, 2006 7:12 am |
Oh Sally, I very much agree with marina. There IS a possibility that your eye problem could be connected to something in your skincare regimen, or that a health problem could be exacerbated by aggressive measures. Better to be safe and not risk making matters worse, especially when it comes to the eyes! |
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Fri Nov 10, 2006 9:05 am |
I know - sillyof me even to ask that really.
I guess im ok carrying on using my baby q every 4 days do you think |
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Fri Nov 10, 2006 9:10 am |
NO.............I mean don't use it until you get the results back period. Sorry, but I think it's the safest course right now. Also, if your doctor can't isolate the cause, the off to a derm. At that point, ask the derm if you can continue to use it around your eyes. Leave them alone for now. |
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Fri Nov 10, 2006 9:18 am |
Ok - i know this is the sensible thing to do. I will have to wait 2 weeks for the results as from Monday coming. This is going to be a long wait |
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Fri Nov 10, 2006 9:44 am |
Please forgive me if I am repeating what someone else has said. Just not feeling up to going though the whole thread.
Sally, I look forward to you getting a clean bill of health once you tests come back. Is there a possibility that one of your eyes has swollen tissue???? Perhaps you left the BQ on that one area too long. Tissue can also swell from a new eye cream or rubbing the area. If the tissue is swollen the area can appear to hang. Try to imagine getting a bee sting on your eye. OUCH!!! Of course I am not a doctor so I am releived you went for a consult. If the tissue is swollen it will recover. Use nothing around your eyes until you get an answer from your MD.
BTW I have read your post for a very long time now. I was shocked when I saw your picture. You are very attractive (gorgeous eyes). Sometimes we are our worst critics.
Big hugs to you Sally. (I think your name is Sally....If not excuse me as these meds are not doing this mind much good). |
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Fri Nov 10, 2006 9:52 am |
Ah Winnie thank you for the huge compliment
How are things with you? I hope all is going well after your surgery and you are well on the way to a speedy recovery.
I dont know what is happening with my eye but I do know its developed a droop inonly a couple of months. The pics of me on the face behind the screen name were taken august 18th this year at my mums wedding. I have taken a couple of others the other day but can not put them on the computer until I go to work next week. Ive had this week of as annual leave because everything has gotten me a little bit down and ive been exhausted. The only things i have incorporated lately has been relax with vialox which i used on my frown line but i havent used it for a couple of weeks now as i have been using DMAE 4% serum all over my face, HA Serum and JB dmae night and day cream. Ive also used the Baby Q 4 times
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Fri Nov 10, 2006 5:26 pm |
I really hope that it is something not importanat like old age then some medical problem...because at least you can correct it by cosmetic surgery. |
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