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Mon Apr 09, 2007 1:08 am  |
| Like what the question implied. Does he look at girls on the street, in the mall, in a restaurant, or anywhere when you are with him? Of course not just any girls but girls that dress kinda less or that look kinda pretty. How will u feel if he does? And what will u do? |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 1:34 am |
My boy doesn't look at other girls when he's with me coz he knows that would annoy me  He only does do that when he's 'with the lads' coz that what boys do isnt it?  |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 10:08 am |
I don't think my boyfriend is really attracted to any girl other than me...yes, a very rare breed, I know! He doesn't even look anymore. I like being a goddess 
(Of course, I am also a very tempermental young woman, which he knows!!) |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 10:18 am |
My husband probably looks at other women. I don't notice it when we're out, but then again maybe he's sly about it.
Honestly I don't care all that much. We've been together 8 years and I know he's dedicated.
Besides...I can appreciate a gorgeous guy when I see him. What's the difference? |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 10:21 am |
| He doesn't.. but I do! |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 10:22 am |
Sorry, double post.. I do look at girls everytime I see an attractive girl and my hubby would get mad at me..  Sometimes I would like to hear his opinions.. |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 11:09 am |
I think I look at gorgeous men and women more often than my SO. And I always ask him what he thinks of them...and being a smart guy...he always say...neh...not my type....
Haha... |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 11:28 am |
| Lisey wrote: |
| He doesn't.. but I do! |
me too! |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 11:30 am |
| My husband doesn't look at other girls on the street, mall, etc. Even before he was my husband he never did that. That makes me feel good knowing how much he respects me. |
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Early 50s, blonde hair (natural) with red streaks (mid-life crisis), blue eyes, fair skin, small pores, very dry skin, some pigmentation (thanks to growing up in Miami), starting to see fine lines. Love my NuFace and Quasar SP and the CPs and Retin A are working as well. |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 11:56 am |
I don't think that looking at other men/women is disrespectful to a partner. It crosses into disrespect if they sit there gawking or "oh my GAWD he's/she's hawt!" or a whole host of other things (flirting, pursuing, etc.)
But just noticing or looking is natural and has nothing to do, in my opinion, on respect. I don't disrespect my husband when I notice another guy, whether we are together or not...or if I go see the movie 300 eight times. |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 12:22 pm |
| Its natural to be drawn to good looks and that's why we love or love to hate celebrities. |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 12:54 pm |
| Me and SO like looking at beautiful people together. We don't gawk but enjoy discussing the features that make them beautiful. I guess we're both secure in the relationship so we don't really mind each other checking out the opposite sex. |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 1:30 pm |
| Stardustdy wrote: |
| Like what the question implied. Does he look at girls on the street, in the mall, in a restaurant, or anywhere when you are with him? Of course not just any girls but girls that dress kinda less or that look kinda pretty. How will u feel if he does? And what will u do? |
My bf seems pretty oblivious to other girls on the street. He's not flirtatious by nature. However, sometimes I did notice he looked at a cute girl but tried to hide it from me. I'd say he's only doing it about 5% of the time. If I noticed him checking someone out, I might say, "Yeah, she's cute!" but other times, I just let it slide. I can't help but feel a tad jealous but push it aside quickly because I know he loves me. Sometimes it's hard not to notice others especially if they're attractive. I notice cute guys, too, but that doesn't mean I'd want to go out with them. |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 2:33 pm |
| boys are boys, if a sexy girl walks by, or a girl that looks and dresses like carmen electra walks by... they are going to look. Maybe not "stare" but they will catch a glimpse while your not looking at him. I'd question his sexuality if the guy wasn't looking! Just as long as your boyfriend respects you and won't comment on how big the girls chest is or if your boyfriend doesnt stare and drool while a sexy girl walks by, then your good. You know your boyfriend is going to come home w/ you. My ex boyfriend wouldn't stare at girls and he would respect me when he is out in public w/ me. But i'd catch him sometimes taking glimpses at beautiful women (as would i when i see attractive men or women) i think it's part of nature.. as humans, we are attracted to beautiful looking things. |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 3:12 pm |
| I agreed that we all luv beautiful things and will look too. It's hard to avoid. I mean I look at attractive guys too. But sometimes when u catch a glimpse of your bf looking at other girls, I can't help having this uncomfortable feeling. I guess it's normal. |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 3:19 pm |
| him? nope. me? definitely, which does annoy him somewhat. however, as I tell him, it makes me happy to see an attractive or well-put together woman. in some weird way, I feel a sense of pride or kinship, as in "she really looks great!" or "she's got a good sense of style" or "she's quite individualistic" or "wow! it's interesting to see what she's done with that..." etc. |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 4:08 pm |
| ParisTroika wrote: |
I don't think that looking at other men/women is disrespectful to a partner. It crosses into disrespect if they sit there gawking or "oh my GAWD he's/she's hawt!" or a whole host of other things (flirting, pursuing, etc.)
But just noticing or looking is natural and has nothing to do, in my opinion, on respect. I don't disrespect my husband when I notice another guy, whether we are together or not...or if I go see the movie 300 eight times. |
I totally agree with all you said, ParisTroika! My hubby and I have been together many years, and we both know we can trust each other. So, each of us noticing and appreciating good looking people (sans gawking and making stupid comments) is not a problem for me!
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 4:47 pm |
| My husband certainly looks but he does it in such a way you would never know it. I asked him how he does it without me noticing and he said he just spots them from a long distance away so he can look without moving his head. By the time they get closer, he's done. Very talented man he is |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 4:48 pm |
| Penelope wrote: |
| My husband certainly looks but he does it in such a way you would never know it. I asked him how he does it without me noticing and he said he just spots them from a long distance away so he can look without moving his head. By the time they get closer, he's done. Very talented man he is |
My SO has refined that technique too! Too bad i've outsmarted him and catch him everytime!! |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 5:03 pm |
| FrevaKZ wrote: |
I don't think my boyfriend is really attracted to any girl other than me...yes, a very rare breed, I know! He doesn't even look anymore. I like being a goddess
(Of course, I am also a very tempermental young woman, which he knows!!) |
Is this the one who wanted to "walk around the table" with you!? |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 7:29 pm |
i see guys w/ gf's or wives checking me out as well, sometimes i get winks or big grins from them (which makes me feel disgusted).
But if you and your bf have a good and trusting relationship, you have nothing to worry about.
I am a straight woman, but when i see attractive females I tend to look as well, more like "wow, that girl is pretty" or "she has nice skin or hair"
I'd catch my ex boyfriend taking glimpses of attractive women sometimes, and it'd be a lie if i was 100% not bothered by it. Ofcourse it does something to a girl's self esteem if your boyfriend looks at other attractive girls (some that look nothing like yourself). But you just have to build up your confidence and shrug it off.. because realy, it is no big deal |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 8:28 pm |
| I do it more often then my bf, everytime I pass a comment he would have to search for the girl but of course by that time it's too late! |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 8:38 pm |
i think its normal for human to want to take a 2nd look at anything that is beautiful! i am also a 100% straight.
i do take a 2nd look at beautiful ladies and of cause charming hunks. i am absolutely fine with my SO looking at beautiful women. but he must strictly *keep-his-hand-to-himself* |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 9:08 pm |
| FrevaKZ wrote: |
I don't think my boyfriend is really attracted to any girl other than me...yes, a very rare breed, I know! He doesn't even look anymore. I like being a goddess
(Of course, I am also a very tempermental young woman, which he knows!!) |
Freva, mine is the same way. I don't think I could have married him if he weren't! |
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Mon Apr 09, 2007 10:17 pm |
I know my bf and I check other guys and gals out all the time. I don't hide it and don't expect him to. It used to bother me from time to time years ago, but no so anymore.
In fact, I find it funny because (in the case of an unflattering looking individual), we are usually on the same page. And in those cases, we just giggle to ourselves and don't usually have to say anything to each other. |
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