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Sat Aug 16, 2008 7:33 am  |
Obviously, in a monogamous relationship, having sex with another person is "cheating". But what about cybersex? And, is there a difference between cybersex with a performer on a "pay for" website vs cybersex with a consensual stranger?
Would love your thoughts on this ... |
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Sat Aug 16, 2008 11:21 am |
If it occurs to you to ask the question, it's cheating.
Just my two cents. |
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Sat Aug 16, 2008 11:22 am |
| cathy_jean wrote: |
Obviously, in a monogamous relationship, having sex with another person is "cheating". But what about cybersex? And, is there a difference between cybersex with a performer on a "pay for" website vs cybersex with a consensual stranger?
Would love your thoughts on this ... |
I am assuming you caught the spouse paying for live chat? I am a live chat host AND i had to deal with an ex who was obsessed with ------------ and live chat. So i have both sides of the story.
My input is, if he's willing to share that he's doing it, doesn't hide it, maybe allows you to do it with him sometimes and/or he doesn't go crazy overspend then i say let him. Trust me, it's harmless....I see the way they act, and it's nothing worth being jealous or worried over. But like i said, he just better be man enough to say he's doing it and not make it into a big deal. I say if a man has to lie about something then he really does have something to hide!! |
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Sat Aug 16, 2008 12:17 pm |
| cortigirl wrote: |
| cathy_jean wrote: |
Obviously, in a monogamous relationship, having sex with another person is "cheating". But what about cybersex? And, is there a difference between cybersex with a performer on a "pay for" website vs cybersex with a consensual stranger?
Would love your thoughts on this ... |
I am assuming you caught the spouse paying for live chat? I am a live chat host AND i had to deal with an ex who was obsessed with ------------ and live chat. So i have both sides of the story.
My input is, if he's willing to share that he's doing it, doesn't hide it, maybe allows you to do it with him sometimes and/or he doesn't go crazy overspend then i say let him. Trust me, it's harmless....I see the way they act, and it's nothing worth being jealous or worried over. But like i said, he just better be man enough to say he's doing it and not make it into a big deal. I say if a man has to lie about something then he really does have something to hide!! |
The story here is about the spouse of a friend. The friend was checking their joint bank account online, and noticed that this activity that seemed suspicious ... multiple charges over the past two weeks that totalled $650. She asked the husband about it, because they've been watching their expenditures and she was worried that someone had hijacked their bank account. The husband confirmed that the charges were his, but claimed that they were due to renewing subscriptions. My friend relayed this to me and said she was more upset about the money than the cybersex, and is worried he is addicted.
I don't have much experience with this, and I didn't know what to tell her. I think most men are into ------------, and the live chat is just one step further. But it is quite possibly addictive? |
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Sat Aug 16, 2008 5:50 pm |
| cathy_jean wrote: |
The story here is about the spouse of a friend.... multiple charges over the past two weeks that totalled $650.... husband confirmed that the charges were his, but claimed that they were due to renewing subscriptions...... |
Once in a while I wouldnt be so concerned about it. Lets face it... most men do like ------------ but having a subscription??? Thats a bit too much IMO. I would be concerned about it. If she wants to track his internet usage to see what he's doing there are programs that can do that and he'll never know(actually thats how my cousin found out her DH was cheating). |
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Sat Aug 16, 2008 6:08 pm |
I don't think it was actually a subscription but actually multiple visits to the same website ... he claimed that the charges were due to subscriptions for his fantasy baseball league (but according to her, they definitely weren't).
But maybe he didn't realize how much these visits were costing him? |
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Sat Aug 16, 2008 6:51 pm |
| cathy_jean wrote: |
I don't think it was actually a subscription but actually multiple visits to the same website ... he claimed that the charges were due to subscriptions for his fantasy baseball league (but according to her, they definitely weren't).
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Oh...I see, well if he's lying about it then it's definitely wrong. She really needs to talk to him about it. |
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Sun Aug 24, 2008 12:04 pm |
| cathy_jean wrote: |
Obviously, in a monogamous relationship, having sex with another person is "cheating". But what about cybersex? And, is there a difference between cybersex with a performer on a "pay for" website vs cybersex with a consensual stranger?
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Sun Aug 24, 2008 12:06 pm |
| cathy_jean wrote: |
Obviously, in a monogamous relationship, having sex with another person is "cheating". But what about cybersex? And, is there a difference between cybersex with a performer on a "pay for" website vs cybersex with a consensual stranger?
Would love your thoughts on this ... |
I have no opinion on cybersex other than your significant other needs to find another hobby. I wouldn't worry about it. |
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Tue Sep 02, 2008 4:10 pm |
Cybersex is still a form of cheating. Because the person is typing words that are not FAITHFUL as far as I am concerned. Telling people what you want to do with them via email, is still not being honest in your relationship, whether you physically did anything with them or not. In my opinion, it ends up leading to more. Take it from me, this is how my ex started. Once the Cybersex was not fulfilling enough for him, he started the real life cheating. It leads to no good, and I agree they need to pick up a HOBBIE, or stay SINGLE!!!!   |
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