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Wed Oct 08, 2008 4:10 am  |
I went to the fruit shop today to buy a lemon - one lemon. So I'm standing in line at the checkout and the women in front of me had enough fruit and veg to survive a nuclear holocaust. So I very politely said "Excuse me, I only have a lemon, would you mind if I snuck in before you?". "Yes", she said, "I would mind!"  The woman on the register's draw just dropped and she said "Don't worry love, I'll get someone else to look after you". So she left the woman with all the stuff waiting at the checkout whilst she got somebody else to serve me. I know I'm showing my age, but honestly, how hard is it to just be nice? |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 5:12 am |
That's ridiculous. I don't know how some people can be so selfish, I just suppose they're terribly unhappy people for whatever reason. I tried to do something nice and unsolicited for people every day because it makes me feel better about myself, lol. So even if it's for selfish reasons, I'm doing it.  Can you imagine how bad she must feel about herself if she can't do a simply nice thing for someone else?
On the other end, I had a very odd man standing right on my heels in line, and when I turned to face him he took a half step back, but when I turned back around he was breathing down my neck again. So I turned around and asked "Can I help you?" and he asked if he could go ahead of me because he only had a 'few' things. Well he had maybe 10 or 12 items but I said "PLEASE, go ahead."
The cashier told me that every time he is there he asks people to go ahead, and he sometimes has several items, but when he's behind someone he just annoys them so much they let him go. STRANGE! |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 5:27 am |
Ug, yes, I sympathise, Keliu. What is so horrible, I think, is that you know how unhappy those people must be, to be so grumpy over nothing, in their daily lives.
Would that happiness was in spray dispenser that we could waft about in our wakes! |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 6:10 am |
| I always offer and I have sometimes bought the one item if I am checking out with a large basket. |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 7:49 am |
| Well, it would have been nice of her to let you go first. However, she didn't *have* to be nice. Maybe she just honestly answered your question, that yes she would mind if you went in front of her. Maybe she was really in a hurry to go somewhere or she was in pain. |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 7:55 am |
| Nimue wrote: |
| Well, it would have been nice of her to let you go first. However, she didn't *have* to be nice. Maybe she just honestly answered your question, that yes she would mind if you went in front of her. Maybe she was really in a hurry to go somewhere or she was in pain. |
More likely she just IS a pain. This behaviour is inexusable. I don't think a lemon would have held her up that much considering how much she had in her cart. Keliu you should have given her the lemon to suck on. |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 8:03 am |
| LOL, Marina. Soo true. I always offer to let someone go ahead of me. Lately, I've noticed the elderly seem to be so rude. I had a senior citizen who kept pushing his cart into my behind standing in line. It took everything I had to not bop him over the head with my bag of carrots. |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 8:08 am |
I was just playing devil's advocate here. That image with the carrots made me laugh. (That's awful though pushing the cart into you? As if that's going to make him get to the counter faster)
| BluesHeart wrote: |
| LOL, Marina. Soo true. I always offer to let someone go ahead of me. Lately, I've noticed the elderly seem to be so rude. I had a senior citizen who kept pushing his cart into my behind standing in line. It took everything I had to not bop him over the head with my bag of carrots. |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 8:09 am |
| marina wrote: |
More likely she just IS a pain. This behaviour is inexusable. I don't think a lemon would have held her up that much considering how much she had in her cart. Keliu you should have given her the lemon to suck on. |
Throw it at her |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 8:15 am |
Bluesheart,
I know exactly what you mean.
I always offer, even if the person behind me has a few items, I just feel that if I am doing a big shopping and they can be done in a minute or two it is inconsiderate to force someone to wait.
And I just "love" it when someone pushes the cart into you and does not even bother to apologize. For old people it may be excusable - - may be the reaction is too slow, and they truly did not see in time; but not when people are just blatantly and clearly rude.
Keliu, so sorry that you had such an unpleasant experience. |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 8:21 am |
Mom is a sprightly 85 year old with one good eye. She insists on pushing the shopping cart-she leans on it and says she dosen't tire out as easily. I have to do the reconnaisance work up front to make sure the innocent won't get hurt. I also stay behing to apologize to those with bruised ankles. Mom just sails along, oblivious to everything...bargaining with the butcher in her broken English...she still thinks she's in Europe after 50 years in Canada  I adore her. |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 9:16 am |
| Nimue wrote: |
I was just playing devil's advocate here. That image with the carrots made me laugh. (That's awful though pushing the cart into you? As if that's going to make him get to the counter faster)
| BluesHeart wrote: |
| LOL, Marina. Soo true. I always offer to let someone go ahead of me. Lately, I've noticed the elderly seem to be so rude. I had a senior citizen who kept pushing his cart into my behind standing in line. It took everything I had to not bop him over the head with my bag of carrots. |
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And you are right to play devil's advocate as we never know what the other person is dealing with. However, in the case of the gentleman behind me, he wanted me to be breathing down the neck of the person in front of me. LOL. And to this day, I still fantasize about beaning him with carrots.  |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 3:42 pm |
| Nimue wrote: |
| Well, it would have been nice of her to let you go first. However, she didn't *have* to be nice. Maybe she just honestly answered your question, that yes she would mind if you went in front of her. Maybe she was really in a hurry to go somewhere or she was in pain. |
She couldn't have been in that much of a hurry - it would have taken about 15 minutes for her to unload the cart and get through the checkout and the woman at the register hadn't started to put her stuff through.
I think it is the unwritten rule of shopping (if you have a loaded basket) to let the person who only has a couple of items through first - especially, if there is only one checkout open. I ALWAYS do - but then, of course, I'm perfect! |
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Wed Oct 08, 2008 6:43 pm |
We sometimes assume that we know what's going on with other people....and we don't. I recall once when I had the flu and a killer migraine but had to drag myself to Wal-Mart to get some meds and groceries. I was next in line to check out, and the checker motioned to the girl behind me and said, "She only has a few items. You won't mind if I check her next." I said, "Yes, I would mind." All I could think of was getting home and climbing back in bed. They thought I was being a shrew, but at the moment I wasn't trying to win "Miss Congeniality".
Otherwise, if my day is going well, and I and notice someone with one or two items, I'll offer to let him/her go next, but I think the rule of thumb is, it's up to me to make the offer...or not. |
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Thu Oct 09, 2008 9:14 am |
| I understand if your sick, and i dont think the register person should have done that unless you had tons, TONS more than the person behind you. But that lemon incident, you really shouldve thrown it at her - she would have deserved it. I always go out of my way for people, even when it aggravates me. Snoody, selfish people just piss me off. |
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Thu Oct 09, 2008 10:09 am |
| I usually allow people with small amounts to step in front of me. (I'm the one who digs in her purse forever). If people poke or prod me I tend to make them wait. Waiting in a Walmart line can be like doing time in hell. If you allow someone to go ahead of you in Walmart you receive special blessings. |
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Thu Oct 09, 2008 12:55 pm |
| I have a neighbor who keeps throwing grass seed on my garden. (she doesn't want plants near the edge of her lawn. Some people (many) are just plain mean. You just need to ignore them. |
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Thu Oct 09, 2008 3:52 pm |
Yup,sharky that's good advice! "Just let it roll off your back like water off a duck", my dad always said!
However, how do you handle the rude & mean when you LIVE with them? DH can be such a dear, but then for any reason at all (stock market crashing, for instance!) he will become the most mean-spirited lemon-pussed shrike!! It is impossible to jolly him out of his bad moods. I just have to wait it out....
He does not see that he is moody. He thinks he is always correct. But I, of course, am: not following good advice, acting irresponsibly, being stupid, etc. PS, he accuses his mother of the same sins. "Low regard for women" is how one of his own colleagues described his behavior long B4 we even married! Of course, said colleague was "misinformed".
Short of divorce, how does one deal with a grumpy spouse? I am working on the Valium Room Freshener as we speak.
Any help most appreciated! |
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Thu Oct 09, 2008 6:55 pm |
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However, how do you handle the rude & mean when you LIVE with them? DH can be such a dear, but then for any reason at all (stock market crashing, for instance!) he will become the most mean-spirited lemon-pussed shrike!! It is impossible to jolly him out of his bad moods. I just have to wait it out....
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I know exactly what you're talking about - most of us have got one of "them" at home! As for a solution - there isn't one - except, perhaps, shopping! Just don't go near any supermarkets! |
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Thu Oct 09, 2008 9:32 pm |
| BWAAAHAAAAHHHAAAAA! You mean and shove a lemon in his lemon-sucking face???? HoHo you sure made me laugh Keliu! Ain't that what friendz R for?? |
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Fri Oct 10, 2008 7:39 am |
| fawnie wrote: |
Yup,sharky that's good advice! "Just let it roll off your back like water off a duck", my dad always said!
However, how do you handle the rude & mean when you LIVE with them? DH can be such a dear, but then for any reason at all (stock market crashing, for instance!) he will become the most mean-spirited lemon-pussed shrike!! It is impossible to jolly him out of his bad moods. I just have to wait it out....
He does not see that he is moody. He thinks he is always correct. But I, of course, am: not following good advice, acting irresponsibly, being stupid, etc. PS, he accuses his mother of the same sins. "Low regard for women" is how one of his own colleagues described his behavior long B4 we even married! Of course, said colleague was "misinformed".
Short of divorce, how does one deal with a grumpy spouse? I am working on the Valium Room Freshener as we speak.
Any help most appreciated! |
If you ever get around to selling those, please let me know! (I have a similar problem.) |
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Fri Oct 10, 2008 12:47 pm |
Isn't it amazing how uncivil some people can act?
My DH and I went to a movie a while ago, and the theater was almost full. There was a couple with an empty seat on either side of them, so DH politely ask the woman "Would you mind moving over?" She says, "Yes, I do mind!" So DH calmly says, "The theater is full, so you can do it on your own or I'll get the manager to help you do it." Her DH was all embarassed and just urged her to move over. All this for one frickin' seat! |
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Fri Oct 10, 2008 1:20 pm |
| Lawdy! It's the End of the World and we should be a little kinder to each other I think. |
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Fri Oct 10, 2008 6:02 pm |
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| My DH and I went to a movie a while ago, and the theater was almost full. There was a couple with an empty seat on either side of them, so DH politely ask the woman "Would you mind moving over?" She says, "Yes, I do mind!" So DH calmly says, "The theater is full, so you can do it on your own or I'll get the manager to help you do it." Her DH was all embarassed and just urged her to move over. All this for one frickin' seat! |
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Fri Oct 10, 2008 6:33 pm |
Although I've run into a few extremely rude people in my time... I try to give the benefit of the doubt behind their behavior (although that lady in the movie theatre couldn't possibly have a reasonable motive.)
I was about 15 and making a purchase. This 80+ y/o woman was behind me... and she kept pushing on me. Being 15 I wasn't quite sure what to do... but remember being quite annoyed. Thinking... GET off me lady...
Then I realized she was not conscience. I actually had to lower her to the floor... and ask the clerk to call an ambulance. Because I was a "kid" I was pushed out of the way... I ended up leaving before finding out what had happened.
When I think it would have been so easy for me to just pull away and have her crash to the ground... She was so little she would have just shattered...
The world would be a better place if people weren't so rude... |
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