Does anyone get flack for their attention to skin/health?
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free skin care · Sat Dec 05, 2009 11:41 am

I´m just wondering if anybody else gets a lot of flack from others for the attention/ time/ trouble they take for their skin and health care?
I don´t think I am excessive in my health/ skincare at all. I don´t think I´m vain or a excessively obsessed w my health and I certaintly don´t do everything I could be doing or that could be done eg I haven´t got plastic surgery or anything or even bought devices and gadgets or even skincare as pricey as La Mer. But I try to do my best - that´s in everything not just skin and health.
Most people don´t see what I do (no great exhibit just putting a few creams on and doing a few excercises) because it´s stuff I do after I shower/ in private. I can´t believe many other women don´t also use creams and do excercises too.
Yet lately a couple of people have hinted that I am excessive. I don´t see what the big deal is with trying to do a partially raw diet, having to reapply lipbalm throughout the day and using sunscreen everyday?!?! I don´t even stick to that stuff faithfully.
Does anybody else get a hard time on count of their beauty/ health regime too?? I don´t think I should give it up no way - why would you do less than the best w/out going overboard ie perhaps plastic surgery or smthng. Or am I supposed to be totally secretive about it?-it´s not like I advertise that I use spf, lipbalm etc etc and anyway I don´t think being secrtive is the way to go. It sets up false standards for other women like when stars deny ps and make others feel abnormally ugly.
Mad

Rant over

free skin care · Sat Dec 05, 2009 11:43 am

maybe this post should be under the "cheese whine" thread. Dunno.

free skin care · Sun Dec 06, 2009 8:30 pm

I do, luckily never from my husband. But the sun is like a death ray where I live and I can be very insistent about getting out of its' way, even with sunscreen. And I feel a definite resentment from women who hav't taken good care of themselves, even though I don't say anything judgemental.

free skin care · Mon Dec 07, 2009 1:25 am

I too get a reaction from others about my sun avoidance. The most recent one is one of my work colleagues at our luncheon said "she puts on sunscreen then sits in the shade". I just said "the sun turns you into a prune and it reflects off things".
Their problem, not mine, is the way I look at it.

free skin care · Mon Dec 07, 2009 2:45 am

Well, my colleagues don't even care about SS or as worse to comb regularly. Regularly? I comb my hair twice a day in the office, and correct my lip liner as much times I have to (if I eat something or drink or if it just fade).
And yes I often have comments like: "Look at her. Where she is planning to go after work?" (if you are neat, combed and perfumed...you must cheating your husband Rolling Eyes

) It is suppose to be said as joke, but after a while it could be irritant. As measuring with look from toe to head with similar comments. As far as I became a grandmother... there is even more material for comments

As anti-weapon you can add to them some ironic comments about soap and water for an example, but that's tiresome... I just accepted that I live and work with people without basics of nice behaviour and.... personal hygiene Neutral

free skin care · Mon Dec 07, 2009 2:50 am

As far as my sun avoidance Bad Grin

- OMG, I talked once with my female colleague about that, and she was surprised and with negative opinion about need for SS at all Mad

- and main argument was: "Are all this people on the beach crazy?" And yes, I am one person which can be noticed in summer as pale like milk - nobody doesn't understand why I don't want to be tanned and look healthier. Confused

free skin care · Mon Dec 07, 2009 9:36 am

I used to get a great deal of flack about it when I started out, and also I was in a car crash which really wrecked the right hand side of my jaw and the skin took ages to heal. I also became passionate about facial exercises, and you wouldn't believe how much a target that made me for my friends - but I'm happy to report that I'm having the last laugh. Almost everyone who was vocal about their disbelief about my foolish efforts has since paid for training with me in facial exercises. Not only that I went to a reunion about half a year ago from High School, and people couldn't believe it. Many told me I hadn't aged at all (which was kind of them but not true) but my facial tissue was healthy and so I chuckled. In the end you will have the last laugh for sure! Laughing

free skin care · Mon Dec 07, 2009 9:38 am

Go to a beach in California and you see 2 types of people... The wing nut who is totally exposed, lubed up with oil, and cocoa brown, but perhaps naturally pale as snow... and then everyone else that is covered head to toe in a 50+ sunscreen, and children wearing swim wear that covers their entire trunk, most of their arms and legs, material has a built in 25+ spf, and they have white zinc covered faces, and scalp or wearing a hat...

free skin care · Tue Dec 08, 2009 8:12 am

I always receive a lot of flack for what others deem as my "excessive and obsessive" skin care. This was totally apparent on a trip this past March to Mexico with my sister and friends. While everyone was oil baking in the Caribbean sun, I was sundressed, sunglassed, spf70'ied, and equipped with large brim hat while lounging under an umbrella...I was thoroughly enjoying myself while they seemed to think I was not, merely because I wasn't toasting myself.....all the while I was the butt of occasional jokes

I merely scoffed them off and told them lets talk in 20 years and see who's laughing now Cool

And that my friends is the way I look at anyone who pokes fun at my so called "obsession"... Very Happy

free skin care · Tue Dec 08, 2009 8:20 am

I get a lot of exclamations over my sun protection too. "But it's not even sunny" blah blah...
I knew I wouldn't be alone with this prob espec on eds with all the smart people here Wink

. As long as you don't go overboard whatever that is for you eg taking skincare to the extreme so that it negatively affects your commitment to the work you want to do, family life etc, or takes you in to debt or smthng I think it's just a healthy interest in doing the best for yourself.
We will just be in better health and beauty (good looks is a reflection of good health) than those who don't bother at all in the end I suppose Very Happy

free skin care · Tue Dec 08, 2009 8:24 am

Totally agree...I find enjoyment in my skin care, I really do. It doesn't affect my life in other areas so I don't see a problem with doing something I really enjoy Very Happy

...and of course in the long run, I will feel better about how I look and feel.

free skin care · Tue Dec 08, 2009 10:28 am

bren21 wrote:

I was thoroughly enjoying myself while they seemed to think I was not, merely because I wasn't toasting myself.....all the while I was the butt of occasional jokes Laughing

I've also encountered this, that I'm somehow depriving myself by avoiding the sun.

But I really, and i mean REALLY, can't stand the feeling of sun on my skin... I could think of few worse tortures than being forced to lay on a beach in a swimsuit, exposed to the sun. Yet many would think of that as the ideal holiday. Laughing

free skin care · Tue Dec 08, 2009 10:38 am

The WORST burns are rec'd on an overcast day!

free skin care · Tue Dec 08, 2009 11:56 am

TTD wrote:

I get a lot of exclamations over my sun protection too. "But it's not even sunny" blah blah...

It is not even sunny Laughing

that's what my mother always repeating about my sun glasses. I have prescription sunglasses and I can see better with them even in rainy sunset, and it sometimes looks really weird Cool

I put them even if I go to my balcony for a second - it is just a habit and I am happy about it.It save my eyes and I have no crow feet at all.
Another one habit is to put rubber gloves even I am going to wash just one glass.

Quote:

We will just be in better health and beauty (good looks is a reflection of good health) than those who don't bother at all in the end I suppose

"Vichy. Health is beautiful." Wink

If I look good, I feel healthy Smile

free skin care · Tue Dec 08, 2009 6:41 pm

ClaudiaFE wrote:

The WORST burns are rec'd on an overcast day!

That's a fact!
I got burnt to a crisp swimming in a pool in Darwin during the wet season, raining and all.

free skin care · Tue Dec 08, 2009 9:21 pm

I used to get some flack mainly from my family... but I do look 10 years younger than I really am so people just stopped and changed their tune to..."your skin looks so great!" Very Happy

free skin care · Wed Dec 09, 2009 6:31 am

TTD wrote:

I´m just wondering if anybody else gets a lot of flack from others for the attention/ time/ trouble they take for their skin and health care?
I don´t think I am excessive in my health/ skincare at all. I don´t think I´m vain or a excessively obsessed w my health and I certaintly don´t do everything I could be doing or that could be done eg I haven´t got plastic surgery or anything or even bought devices and gadgets or even skincare as pricey as La Mer. But I try to do my best - that´s in everything not just skin and health.
Most people don´t see what I do (no great exhibit just putting a few creams on and doing a few excercises) because it´s stuff I do after I shower/ in private. I can´t believe many other women don´t also use creams and do excercises too.
Yet lately a couple of people have hinted that I am excessive. I don´t see what the big deal is with trying to do a partially raw diet, having to reapply lipbalm throughout the day and using sunscreen everyday?!?! I don´t even stick to that stuff faithfully.
Does anybody else get a hard time on count of their beauty/ health regime too?? I don´t think I should give it up no way - why would you do less than the best w/out going overboard ie perhaps plastic surgery or smthng. Or am I supposed to be totally secretive about it?-it´s not like I advertise that I use spf, lipbalm etc etc and anyway I don´t think being secrtive is the way to go. It sets up false standards for other women like when stars deny ps and make others feel abnormally ugly.
Mad

Rant over

It's my secret vice. Laughing

But it helps that I'm not married and live alone.

free skin care · Wed Dec 09, 2009 8:34 am

I've dealt with this since I was 13 concerning both makeup and skincare, my attitude has always been it's my time and my face so why should anyone else care! I did used to bake in the sun as it was considered healthy in those long ago years, but haven't done so for ages.
I guess I just always felt it is my choice to do what I do to look my best and it makes me feel good, if others don't like it too bad! Smile

DM

free skin care · Thu Dec 10, 2009 10:55 am

Anyone have kids who harass them on their skincare? Oh and they're so helpful..."Mom, all this stuff you do to your face just doesn't help." They see me using the LED and looking at these forums. As 13 and 16 year old boys they're still pretty blunt (and I've taught them to be honest) but "ouch!". Shock

Plus the fact that I think they may be right...I'm not sure anything is helping, but I'm still hopeful.

free skin care · Thu Dec 10, 2009 11:47 am

ShastaGirl wrote:

Anyone have kids who harass them on their skincare? Oh and they're so helpful..."Mom, all this stuff you do to your face just doesn't help." They see me using the LED and looking at these forums. As 13 and 16 year old boys they're still pretty blunt (and I've taught them to be honest) but "ouch!". Shock

Oh my younger son is helpful indeed. Two weeks ago I stirred vit C to dissolve like nuts, and when I told him what I am doing - he said : "You should put a drop of alcohol, it will dissolve quicker" and stirred it for me for half an hour. He was always good boy. The older son said just "Vit C? Yeah right..."

free skin care · Thu Dec 10, 2009 9:12 pm

appletini wrote:

bren21 wrote:

I was thoroughly enjoying myself while they seemed to think I was not, merely because I wasn't toasting myself.....all the while I was the butt of occasional jokes Laughing

But I really, and i mean REALLY, can't stand the feeling of sun on my skin... I could think of few worse tortures than being forced to lay on a beach in a swimsuit, exposed to the sun. Yet many would think of that as the ideal holiday. Laughing

Thank you for writing this. I have always avoided the sun for that very reason. Now at 46 going on 47, I have no wrinkles on my face. Just a side benefit from being a vampire, lol! Smile

free skin care · Fri Dec 11, 2009 11:17 am

ShastaGirl wrote:

Anyone have kids who harass them on their skincare? Oh and they're so helpful..."Mom, all this stuff you do to your face just doesn't help." They see me using the LED and looking at these forums. As 13 and 16 year old boys they're still pretty blunt (and I've taught them to be honest) but "ouch!". Shock

Plus the fact that I think they may be right...I'm not sure anything is helping, but I'm still hopeful.

When mine were young my 2 girls were always wanting to get into it all, now at 28 and 20
they take excellent care of their skin and avoid the sun as well as using sunscreen every day of the year!
All four give mom a hard time if I don't bother to throw some makeup on or style my hair, that includes 2 sons who are 24 and 25.
LOL Bad Grin

DM

free skin care · Fri Dec 11, 2009 8:46 pm

*mirjana* wrote:

ShastaGirl wrote:

Anyone have kids who harass them on their skincare? Oh and they're so helpful..."Mom, all this stuff you do to your face just doesn't help." They see me using the LED and looking at these forums. As 13 and 16 year old boys they're still pretty blunt (and I've taught them to be honest) but "ouch!". Shock

Oh my younger son is helpful indeed. Two weeks ago I stirred vit C to dissolve like nuts, and when I told him what I am doing - he said : "You should put a drop of alcohol, it will dissolve quicker" and stirred it for me for half an hour. He was always good boy. The older son said just "Vit C? Yeah right..."

I usually wait for DH to leave town on business trips to make my DIY concoctions, and I only bring out my gadgets to use late at night when he's fast asleep Laughing

With all the teasing about my lotions and potions, masks and sunscreen, I don't even want to deal with the flack if he were to find out about *the rest of* my skin stuff! :oops

free skin care · Sat Dec 12, 2009 6:29 pm

oh my gosh Fat Swan! That's hilarious. My friends sort of like my skin knowledge. My best friend loves going shopping with me because she says I know my stuff! Another friend suggested I work at Sephora because the majority of those girls are more into makeup then skincare (which in my opinion is silly! I'd rather look good with minimal effort and simple steps than lather on makeup everyday).
My mom today came into my room and said sooo you really like this "Advanced Night Repair" stuff huh. That was sort of funny. It's not a bad quirk to have. It's healthier than say tattoos (I have a small fear of infected needles instilled in me by my mom haha) or drinking. It's a fun hobby... And now that I am learning cheaper ways I expect to get less flack. But yes I expect my bf to laugh at me when I start wearing frownies in a few years... Laughing

free skin care · Sat Dec 12, 2009 6:31 pm

ps I'm all about the sunscreen in Mexico. How glamorous to be reclining under an umbrella with a wide brimmed hat. I'm not a bake in the sun kind of girl either...

Whose skin looks better? Champion tanner Jennifer Anniston or pale skinned Angelina Jolie. I say Angie.

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