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jersey girl
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Mon Feb 01, 2010 8:31 am  |
| sister sweets wrote: |
| jersey girl wrote: |
| sister sweets wrote: |
| The men I meet seem to respect my professional job - I work out, I'm polished and I try to present nicely. I find a range of men and usually they are men who have it together on most levels or at least striving to be. They seem to want to pay and also very nice in other ways: courtesy etc. Remember I am from an over 50 demographic in most cases. It's part of the upbringing. |
You sound like a busy girl! |
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Thought I read on another post you had a BF |
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Wed Feb 03, 2010 10:22 pm |
| jersey girl wrote: |
| sister sweets wrote: |
| jersey girl wrote: |
| sister sweets wrote: |
| The men I meet seem to respect my professional job - I work out, I'm polished and I try to present nicely. I find a range of men and usually they are men who have it together on most levels or at least striving to be. They seem to want to pay and also very nice in other ways: courtesy etc. Remember I am from an over 50 demographic in most cases. It's part of the upbringing. |
You sound like a busy girl! |
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Thought I read on another post you had a BF |
Jersey girl - I have a WONDERFUL BF.... He is the over 50 demographic I'm talking about. It's great, I tell ya. |
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Mon Aug 16, 2010 10:16 am |
| that really depends every situation has pros and cons so its best you judge it yourself |
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Mon Aug 16, 2010 4:35 pm |
I would. There's nothing wrong with making more money than the guy, and if you end up marrying him at least you don't have to argue about everything you spend. Believe me, my husband gets really annoyed with what i spend money on  now suddenly I have to justify everything I buy.. oh the joys of marriage |
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Thu Aug 26, 2010 10:48 am |
and just the other day, I read an article stating that men who make more money overall (over everybody - male or female) are more likely to cheat?
You know what I think? I think if a person is going to cheat, they'll do it regardless of money issues.
Money became a poison pill in my marriage - I was the saver, he was the spender and now that I am single, the issue still rears its head.
If I ever get remarried, I think separate accounts is the only way to go.
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Thu Aug 26, 2010 11:51 am |
oooooooohhhhhhhh so interesting and so many valid points. It seems like men who make good money are also smarter and more educated (a very broad generalization here but you get my drift), they also keep themselves groomed.
For the money category -- yes because I was ill for a long time and just getting my business together, it may end up doing very well so......but in the mean time I will have to say yes on the $.
For the smart/education category -- seems to be tied up somewhat with money, the smarter you are, the further you go in school, the more successful you become, the more money you make......I simply cannot deal with men who aren't as smart as me, the arguments are very telling, they usually bottom out on the middle school level.
For the grooming category --- I'll be 60 in early Sept. Have you ever taken a good look at the men in my age group? Frightening and depressing, even Oprah says that men over 50 give up. So men who can afford better food, better clothes, better health clubs etc. tend to be more attractive (and less gross). |
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Cally
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Thu Oct 14, 2010 7:41 pm |
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| Depends. Some men don't earn much money because they are in professions that don't pay well but are personally gratifying. Some men are just lazy. |
I think this sums up my opinion. I have no problem being with someone who makes less than I do as long as they ARE doing something. |
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Thu Oct 14, 2010 8:18 pm |
| Cally wrote: |
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| Depends. Some men don't earn much money because they are in professions that don't pay well but are personally gratifying. Some men are just lazy. |
I think this sums up my opinion. I have no problem being with someone who makes less than I do as long as they ARE doing something. |
I agree with 2 caveats prenup and separate accounts!  |
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Fri Oct 15, 2010 1:04 pm |
| I think the issue depends on your life style goals. My husband and I wanted to raise our children ourselves, at home. I'm glad he makes more money than I ever did, so I can be home with our sons. |
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Tue Oct 26, 2010 8:27 pm |
I'm 47 but have mainly dated younger men in the past, and my husband is 32. A large number of my friends are younger than me and I am constantly struck by how conservative many of the younger men are. I have twice dated men who made less money than I did at the time (one 7 years older than me and one 10 years younger than me). Money did raise it's ugly head both times. Several of my younger friends (in their 30's) have said that it has caused problems in their relationships also. It seems to depend on whether the man feels fulfilled in his life as a whole. The men who have had difficulty with their partner earning more have all been white collar professionals in fast paced careers, while the ones who don't care are those who work in the arts or as tradespeople.
Yes I know this is a dreadful generalisation, but maybe much of it comes down to whether a guy has an alpha personality or is fairly laid back. |
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Sun Dec 12, 2010 6:02 am |
Interesting story. I am 49 and hanging in there, lol.
Yesterday, I had a gorgeous 30 year old look at the apartment I have for rent in the basement of my house. After he left, he sent me a text and I quote:
"You are cute and have a great personality. Would you have dinner with me some time?"
My ego needed that yesterday
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Sun Dec 12, 2010 3:12 pm |
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oooooooohhhhhhhh so interesting and so many valid points. It seems like men who make good money are also smarter and more educated (a very broad generalization here but you get my drift), they also keep themselves groomed.
For the grooming category --- I'll be 60 in early Sept. Have you ever taken a good look at the men in my age group? Frightening and depressing, even Oprah says that men over 50 give up. So men who can afford better food, better clothes, better health clubs etc. tend to be more attractive (and less gross). |
I would never MARRY a man who makes less money, but date, sure, why not. As long as he fits into the GROOMING category that Secretly has so clearly defined! |
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Mon Dec 13, 2010 3:40 pm |
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Interesting story. I am 49 and hanging in there, lol.
Yesterday, I had a gorgeous 30 year old look at the apartment I have for rent in the basement of my house. After he left, he sent me a text and I quote:
"You are cute and have a great personality. Would you have dinner with me some time?"
My ego needed that yesterday
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Congratulations BF! You GO Girl! I hope you said yes!? |
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Sun Dec 19, 2010 12:44 am |
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Interesting story. I am 49 and hanging in there, lol.
Yesterday, I had a gorgeous 30 year old look at the apartment I have for rent in the basement of my house. After he left, he sent me a text and I quote:
"You are cute and have a great personality. Would you have dinner with me some time?"
My ego needed that yesterday
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Barefootgirl, I'm curious to know what happened. Don't you find that guys that young mostly just.want.to.get.laid?
Did you say no? If so, how did you do it without coming across like a jerk? or prude? or mean? or a tease? or a snob? etc etc You'd think pointing out the age difference would be enough.
Did you say yes? Holy cow!! Did you say yes?? If a guy is >= 13 years younger than me, I'm technically old enough to be his mother and could never take him seriously. |
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Sun Dec 19, 2010 3:36 pm |
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Don't you find that guys that young mostly just.want.to.get.laid?
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Duh! |
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Sun Dec 19, 2010 3:44 pm |
| If I am not mistaken BF has a wonderful BF, so I say just enjoy the compliment even if all he wanted was to get laid, it's an ego boost as he obviously found her physically attractive!! |
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Mon Dec 20, 2010 12:58 pm |
There are 19 years age difference between us and so, I am old enough to be his mother. He is so adorable and works as an FBI agent!
I assume this is a physical thing only as it's highly unlikely that a 49 year old woman and 30 year old man are going to go out looking for draperies together LOL.
I kept his number, just in case things don't work out elsewhere
Since my divorce, I have had dates with one other much younger man - he was 35 and quite mature and intelligent - but he shares custody of a pair of 3 year old twins. Not something I want to deal with.
At middle age, it's better to find someone you can relate to...right?
Another man from my office asked me out and he's 57 - with hearing aids and a cane. No offense, but I want someone similar to my activity level.
My boyfriend is the same age as myself, but he's been tied up lately with issues related to his teenaged daughter (she is a big handful).
Middle age is not easy - between kids and parents.
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Mon Dec 20, 2010 1:45 pm |
In this life I believe absolutely that everyone comes with baggage. What makes or breaks it is how well they cope with that baggage and what you are willing to accept in that area.
Communication and compromise are also key.
Obviously not including drug, alcohol abuse, abusive behavior.....you get the idea. |
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Mon Dec 20, 2010 8:41 pm |
Thanks for sharing your perspective, Barefootgirl, and for being so open. Not an easy thing to do on the internet where just anyone can read and judge what you post.
I'm intensely private. I can't share back. HUGS to you instead. But, yeah, everyone should find someone they can relate to...except me. I'm sick of men. Not enough to go gay. Just enough to go celibate. permanently. yeah. |
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Thu Dec 30, 2010 4:31 am |
| Barefootgirl wrote: |
Interesting story. I am 49 and hanging in there, lol.
Yesterday, I had a gorgeous 30 year old look at the apartment I have for rent in the basement of my house. After he left, he sent me a text and I quote:
"You are cute and have a great personality. Would you have dinner with me some time?"
My ego needed that yesterday
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How sweet! |
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Fri Apr 22, 2011 12:34 pm |
| I make slightly more than my man. Honestly, I love it. I'm an extremely competitive person (probably one of my weakest personality traits) and I pride myself on my earning potential. Another perk is I can spend money on something completely ridiculous (like my beloved gadgets) and there isn't a thing he can say. I'll still get the familiar obnoxious eye roll or a "what. are. you. doing." But men are still men, can't blame him, I know I have freaky hobbies to the average person. |
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Fri Apr 22, 2011 1:53 pm |
That article makes somewhat contradictory claims.
A man earning less than his spouse is more likely to cheat... a man whose spouse is economically dependent on him is more likely to cheat...
The research could have had those results, but the differences would have to be fairly weak, especially when looking at all cases along a continuum.
The finding about Latino men was interesting if true.
My understanding is that social sciences have shown that the moe more leverage a person has in their marriage, which might include economic, the statistically more likely they are to cheat, compared to others of their geneder.
I would date a guy who made less than me, depending on his character. You have to take the time to get to know any guy, though, in order to not get entangled with some parasitic sociopathic fraud or player. |
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Tue Jun 07, 2011 11:10 pm |
I don't inherently care if I make more or less money and I think many women would agree that the imbalance in and of itself is not necessarily problematic.
BUT--and this is a big BUT--while it may not bother us, I think it bothers a vast majority of men. As cliche as it sounds they pride themselves on being the caretakers and throwing that woolly mammoth at our feet (aka "more money"), and I think even the most "enlightened" modern men have a struggle with this issue.
So for that reason--using broad generalizations--I would most likely not date a man who makes significantly less than me because I think it's just a red flag for unnecessary problems. Men's egos are fragile enough already--why add one more thing to the mix? I also might be questioning his work ethic. If women consistently get paid less even in today's society, I'm very curious to hear why I'm making more than him!
I might make an exception for a man who is very devoted and fulfilled in his work and it just doesn't pay (ie clergy, social worker), but of all others I tend to be wary. |
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Wed Jun 08, 2011 1:34 pm |
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while it may not bother us, I think it bothers a vast majority of men. As cliche as it sounds they pride themselves on being the caretakers and throwing that woolly mammoth at our feet (aka "more money"), and I think even the most "enlightened" modern men have a struggle with this issue.
I would most likely not date a man who makes significantly less than me because I think it's just a red flag for unnecessary problems.
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I totally agree. I learned my lesson the hard way. Sadly, now that more women graduate from college, younger men in general will be making less. |
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