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evadiva43
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Joined: 22 Jan 2010
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Fri Jan 22, 2010 7:52 pm  |
| Just curious about dating someone that makes less than you. Me and a few girlfriends had an interesting conversation about this. What do you think? |
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Fri Jan 22, 2010 8:51 pm |
sure! why not!
now that i'm older, i feel more feel as a woman to make my own personal choices without the interference of family/friend/peer pressure.
besides, have you looked at some of the construction workers and policemen? ouch! hot! hot!  |
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Fri Jan 22, 2010 10:36 pm |
I think it's a generational thing. The women of the younger generation are better educated and make more money than the men. I am older and prefer a man who makes more. Men over 50 generally operate in the protector-provider mode, which I happen to appreciate.
Years ago, I dated someone who made less money than I did. He felt very threatened whenever I spoke to or was spoken to by a man who seemed to have a better job. He wound up cheating on me with someone who was poorer than he was, so poor she took in laundry. I learned a valuable lesson. |
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Sat Jan 23, 2010 3:52 pm |
| Well I am a homemaker, so in order for that man to make less than I do, he would have to be a hobo or a college student. |
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Sat Jan 23, 2010 4:07 pm |
| SoftSkin wrote: |
I think it's a generational thing. The women of the younger generation are better educated and make more money than the men. I am older and prefer a man who makes more. Men over 50 generally operate in the protector-provider mode, which I happen to appreciate.
Years ago, I dated someone who made less money than I did. He felt very threatened whenever I spoke to or was spoken to by a man who seemed to have a better job. He wound up cheating on me with someone who was poorer than he was, so poor she took in laundry. I learned a valuable lesson. |
i'm sorry about that. he is too insecure for a woman like you.
i hope you find love without limits... without limits of income, status...
but real love.
all the best to you! |
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to, cnd, 39, asian, dry&sensitive. products: valmont, givenchy, chanel, guerlain, dior, misc sothys&lush; mu: valmont, dior, chanel & mac; anti aging: diy facial massages, dr.ho's, assrt of EMS/TENS, wellbox, nuface, nuskin, tua viso, tua trend, babyQ, facemaster, oxylift, dermawand, life, suction, 8clarisonic, 2opal, magnassager, sonic,etc |
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Sat Jan 23, 2010 4:13 pm |
| LLina you are so dear.... big hug. |
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Sat Jan 23, 2010 4:14 pm |
| Swissmom wrote: |
| Well I am a homemaker, so in order for that man to make less than I do, he would have to be a hobo or a college student. |
i used to have a crush on guy that looks like a hobo! ok, i still do!
he's a sweet country boy from midwest canada... tall, pure of heart, very kind,... and the most beautiful kind eyes. he has no pretenses and would walk around toronto in his jean jacket and holey sweater. my heart would melt.
my friends all agreed he was the nicest, down to earth, genuine person... but they all laughed when i told them of my crush.
every now and then, i think i get a glimpse of him, but it is not him, its some homeless man.
i'm such a strange girl!
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Sat Jan 23, 2010 5:26 pm |
I'd have no problem dating someone who made less money than I do!
In fact, only recently my husband started making more money than I do. When we first got married, I basically supported both of us and we didn't care. He hasn't dropped the hobo look though 
But we're both around 35 so we didn't really grow up with the concept of husband=provider. So it really worked for both of us.
It's just money.
All the best,
Josee |
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Sat Jan 23, 2010 5:30 pm |
| sister sweets wrote: |
| LLina you are so dear.... big hug. |
hey there fine mama!
where ya been?
you're looking mighty tantilzing
too ssssweet for the eyes!
*cuddle bear hugs for sissweets* |
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to, cnd, 39, asian, dry&sensitive. products: valmont, givenchy, chanel, guerlain, dior, misc sothys&lush; mu: valmont, dior, chanel & mac; anti aging: diy facial massages, dr.ho's, assrt of EMS/TENS, wellbox, nuface, nuskin, tua viso, tua trend, babyQ, facemaster, oxylift, dermawand, life, suction, 8clarisonic, 2opal, magnassager, sonic,etc |
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Mon Jan 25, 2010 1:57 pm |
sorry for my ignorance but i am utterly confused....now what is a hobo? or "hobo look"  |
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Mon Jan 25, 2010 6:55 pm |
| simran wrote: |
| sorry for my ignorance but i am utterly confused....now what is a hobo? or "hobo look" |
a hobo is a person whom is homeless, and that lives a transient lifestyle. going from one place to another. usually a hobo is poor person, carrying his only few belongings on his person; usually dirty and wearing tattered/sparse clothing.
i swear, i'm in love with a cute hobo! 
i like to think of my dilemma as a case of 'two star-crossed lovers'. it sounds more romantic that way.  |
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to, cnd, 39, asian, dry&sensitive. products: valmont, givenchy, chanel, guerlain, dior, misc sothys&lush; mu: valmont, dior, chanel & mac; anti aging: diy facial massages, dr.ho's, assrt of EMS/TENS, wellbox, nuface, nuskin, tua viso, tua trend, babyQ, facemaster, oxylift, dermawand, life, suction, 8clarisonic, 2opal, magnassager, sonic,etc |
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Tue Jan 26, 2010 12:08 pm |
| Hobo = bum = tramp = homeless. The designation depends on which generation you are from. My mother called them tramps. Now a tramp means Paris Hilton! |
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Tue Jan 26, 2010 3:31 pm |
| SoftSkin wrote: |
| Hobo = bum = tramp = homeless. The designation depends on which generation you are from. My mother called them tramps. Now a tramp means Paris Hilton! |
wow! i know alot of celebrities!
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to, cnd, 39, asian, dry&sensitive. products: valmont, givenchy, chanel, guerlain, dior, misc sothys&lush; mu: valmont, dior, chanel & mac; anti aging: diy facial massages, dr.ho's, assrt of EMS/TENS, wellbox, nuface, nuskin, tua viso, tua trend, babyQ, facemaster, oxylift, dermawand, life, suction, 8clarisonic, 2opal, magnassager, sonic,etc |
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Wed Jan 27, 2010 1:07 am |
I do date a man who earns less than me and it makes no difference to me.
Rupie x |
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Wed Jan 27, 2010 5:47 am |
Wow! If I dated a man that made less money than I did he'd be pretty damn poor!
But seriously, when it comes to love..it wouldn't matter to me...you just can't put a price on such a euphoric feeling. |
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Wed Jan 27, 2010 2:08 pm |
Depends. Some men don't earn much money because they are in professions that don't pay well but are personally gratifying. Some men are just lazy.
When I first met my husband, I was earning more. Then I encouraged him to quit his (fairly well paid) job to start his own business, and I supported our family (including 3 kids from my first marriage) for a a year. He now makes a lot more money than I do. The glass ceiling has been a very real impediment for me.
At one point in my first marriage, I was earning more than my ex. He used that fact as leverage to get a raise. "My wife can't make more than I do!" It worked, and I was so angry at him for resorting to such cheap tactics. Apparently women now earn more than men do in 25% of all employed couples.
Women still have so much less power in our culture than men do -- it's good to outearn the guy, and if I could, I'd do it again! |
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Thu Jan 28, 2010 10:44 am |
I'm not overly concerned how much money a man has, however it often does concern them... many men are just not and never will be comfortable with women paying for them.
If you're used to a certain lifestyle, issues will arise - say, you want to meet up with friends in restaurants or fly to wherever for the weekend, stay in a nice hotel. The guy can't afford it, and won't come along as he doesn't want you to pay for him. It does create tension, at least in my experience - you can't go to places you're used to (as he can't afford it and won't let you pay for him), but you don't want to be stuck at home watching a dvd every night just because he can't afford to go out.
Maybe some men are OK with it. I tend to go for the big, mean, super macho, boxer type... but softly spoken with old school perfect manners (you know, the ones that open doors and stand up when a "lady" enters the room). They do exist .. but they don't like you paying for anything.
I'd rather remain eternally shagless than keep company with the boring manicured lawyers and accountants that seem to ask me out these days... |
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Sun Jan 31, 2010 7:25 pm |
| appletini wrote: |
I'd rather remain eternally shagless than keep company with the boring manicured lawyers and accountants that seem to ask me out these days... |
Hey, send them my way! At least lawyers and accountants have job security. |
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Sun Jan 31, 2010 8:33 pm |
| appletini wrote: |
I'm not overly concerned how much money a man has, however it often does concern them... many men are just not and never will be comfortable with women paying for them.
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Yep...this has been my experience as well. Men have always been concerned about their income vs. mine, though they say it doesn't bother them. But when we eventually break up, they always say that I just don't "need" them enough. |
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Sun Jan 31, 2010 9:24 pm |
| The men I meet seem to respect my professional job - I work out, I'm polished and I try to present nicely. I find a range of men and usually they are men who have it together on most levels or at least striving to be. They seem to want to pay and also very nice in other ways: courtesy etc. Remember I am from an over 50 demographic in most cases. It's part of the upbringing. |
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Sun Jan 31, 2010 9:44 pm |
| sister sweets wrote: |
| Remember I am from an over 50 demographic in most cases. It's part of the upbringing. |
Maybe I just need to date older men! I'm 43, so 50 isn't out of bounds! |
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Sun Jan 31, 2010 10:07 pm |
For the most part it seems to be part of the generation thing. The men in that 1960 or less demographic tend to enjoy your smarts and your accomplishments and they want to be your knight in shining armour (well most of them). It's a crossover effect I've noticed.
Blending of the older way of thinking and a way that came in the 60's and later.
They can be the most wonderful men- but remember you also deal with the macho hold-outs where Mommy did everything in the house. So there is a range.
As for you - the female - here's the obvious: show them you know how to act, understand things - politics, what's happening in the world, how to carry a conversation, make their friends and family happy and welcome and if you enjoy their company they will know. Give freely in every way - an imprompto fun thing, a surprise idea. I tell you - this age is the best of everything for a today girl who like a chivalrous man. |
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Sun Jan 31, 2010 10:20 pm |
| sister sweets wrote: |
| They can be the most wonderful men- but remember you also deal with the macho hold-outs where Mommy did everything in the house. So there is a range. |
Ugh...I don't handle that part so well, lol. |
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jersey girl
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Mon Feb 01, 2010 8:22 am |
| sister sweets wrote: |
| The men I meet seem to respect my professional job - I work out, I'm polished and I try to present nicely. I find a range of men and usually they are men who have it together on most levels or at least striving to be. They seem to want to pay and also very nice in other ways: courtesy etc. Remember I am from an over 50 demographic in most cases. It's part of the upbringing. |
You sound like a busy girl! |
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Mon Feb 01, 2010 8:25 am |
| jersey girl wrote: |
| sister sweets wrote: |
| The men I meet seem to respect my professional job - I work out, I'm polished and I try to present nicely. I find a range of men and usually they are men who have it together on most levels or at least striving to be. They seem to want to pay and also very nice in other ways: courtesy etc. Remember I am from an over 50 demographic in most cases. It's part of the upbringing. |
You sound like a busy girl! |
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