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Sat Feb 09, 2008 3:38 pm  |
I hate it that my feelings get hurt so easlily. I wish I could desensitize myself.
My 10 year old son just got back from a classmate's birthday party. It was kind of last minute, so I put some body wash and body spray in a gift bag for the now 11 year old girl. I asked him if she liked the gift and he said no. He said that this little girl said I had bad taste. I asked him if her mom heard, and he said that it was just in front of a few of the kids.
Well I just got off the phone with this girl's mom. She said that her daughter likes the gift and is happy with it. She seems to think that my boy was embarrassed to give it to her because it was girly. She said that my son kept saying 'my mom picked it out, it was from my mom'. Yeah ok whatever. I ended the conversasion by saying that as long as she is happy with the gift then it's all good...but chances are my boy won't be going to anymore of her birthday parties. |
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Sat Feb 09, 2008 3:49 pm |
kittylove,
you are sensitive just like me!
I think that little girl has such bad manners! She should appreciate that she got a gift and that your son was able to attend at last minute.
I wouldn't worry too much about it, that little girl is going to grow up to be an unappreciative diva. |
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Sat Feb 09, 2008 3:53 pm |
| Oh my god, I just told my daughter what happened. She goes to the same school, and she just told me a few horror stories about this little girl. And of course this little girl has a following, probably because they fear her. Wow. I really hope karma is real. |
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Sat Feb 09, 2008 3:58 pm |
| kittylove wrote: |
| I really hope karma is real. |
Let's hope so...
In any case, she doesn't sound like a happy girl so you might not have to wait for karma to strike her  |
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Sat Feb 09, 2008 4:04 pm |
kittylove,
It is not the first or last time you are going to get hurt when it comes to your children's feelings. All children can be cruel at times. If you didn't ask your son how she liked the gift perhaps he wouldn't have brought it up. As I can remember I made more of things then my children did.
If the girl's mother said she liked the gift perhaps your son was the one who disliked it. Boys at that age tend to dislike "girly" things (or pretend they do  ).
I think you might be hurt more then your son. Oh, I remember when my children got a tiny cut I hemorrhaged.  |
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Mon Feb 18, 2008 5:37 am |
I am very sensitive also, but when it comes to children, it is so hard to please them because they can't decide what they want also.
Looking back, I was not that critical when I got gifts like that.
Warm hugs |
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Thu Feb 21, 2008 9:14 pm |
It's for all these reasons and more, that I give bratty kids moolah!
Haven't had a complaint yet....  |
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Wed Feb 27, 2008 5:55 pm |
| I understand how you feel. I spent hours on Amazon looking for a perfect X-mas gift for a 6-year-old boy (my bf's nephew) who is a genius and doesn't like normal toys. I found an interactive mind game made by Leapfrog for 3rd-5th graders (he's in 1st grade but felt bored by the easiness of the materials taught him so far). So I thought I found a fun and challenging toy for him. When he opened it, he made a face and said to his mom in front of me, "I don't like it." He didn't even try it to see if he would like it or not. I feel discouraged to get him any more gifts in the future since it is way too hard to please him. And I thought about just giving him money. Well, based on his response to seeing $25 cash inside the birthday card, i.e. no excitement or appreciation, and receiving a $100 check from his grandparents to which he said, "Oh I thought it would be $1,000," I don't think he'd be thrilled about getting money either, and I definitely can't afford to give him a $1000 to please him. |
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Wed Feb 27, 2008 6:26 pm |
Gifts from me that have elicited the best reception are things that get better with time and that also work out to be family outings (yours or theirs, depending on how the parents feel about outings! LOL) like their own personal annual membership to the aquarium, the zoo, science world etc. which often includes an in house magazine subscription and unlimited admission for the year. Or tickets for two to something like the Omnimax theatre for some of the great shows they have playing. A gift certificate to a book store usually works out well, too, as they can pick their own book out.
One time we planned ahead and instead of gifts, contributed towards a sleepover adventure at the aquarium for the kids or a train ride. |
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Sat Mar 01, 2008 2:38 pm |
Odds are since you're an EDS member, you're probably ravishingly gorgeous with impeccable taste (hey just check out that our pictures thread for proof)
Other than that one freakish little kid I saw in Marie Claire one time (geez I can't remember the story too well but supposedly he was a fashion genius of sorts), what 11 year do you know that has good taste? I don't know a single one. When I was 11 I wore plastic jewelry, jelly shoes, etc. And on top of bad taste, she has bad manners. Karma already hit her it sounds like. |
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Sat Mar 01, 2008 7:54 pm |
| Kids that young with no manners shouldn't have to take full responsibility for their poor behavior. It's their parents who have no manners - they haven't taught their children how to behave. If I acted like that when I was a child I would have gotten quite a yelling at. |
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Mon Mar 03, 2008 7:14 am |
| This may sound strange, but in my opinion, it's better to have one's feelings easily hurt than to constantly be in a flat, neutral state. After I came off of anti-depressants, not even the greatest tragedy could affect me. I was numb to everything. At least you're human!! |
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