Dealing with the ungrateful... (rant)
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free skin care · Tue Dec 30, 2008 2:34 pm

What does EDS think about those rare individuals who never send "thank you" cards....or even acknowledge receiving a gift?

Granted, two weeks is the grace period, but what happened to a simple email or call to say the package was received? My future guideline is going to be: "No thank you card = no more future gifts!" Some of the gifts given have been quite substantial....whyizzit ppl can't take a minute to say "thanks!" or "we got it!" or "F*** you, we hated it!"

Are ppl intimidated by gifts and feel sheepish that they have not reciprocated so just ignore the whole thing? I don't give gifts for any reciprocation or thanks, but what happened to courtesy? Am I that much of a dinosaur??!

I have always called or written the offenders to ask "Hey, did you get the ----I sent, or was it lost in the mail?" DH thinks that is begging for a thank you, but what do you think?

free skin care · Tue Dec 30, 2008 3:32 pm

I wonder if the card with the gift was lost ? or bad memory ?
You are such a sweetheart and I'm sure you have wonderful friends. Hmm.. maybe next time a gift is in order "your memory may fail too"
Wink

free skin care · Tue Dec 30, 2008 5:53 pm

skin care addict wrote:

I wonder if the card with the gift was lost ? or bad memory ?
You are such a sweetheart and I'm sure you have wonderful friends. Hmm.. maybe next time a gift is in order "your memory may fail too"
Wink

Yep that's what I'm thinkin: "Gee, your birthday just slipped my mind...what day was it again...?" Trouble is, I hate to see little kids suffer the faux pas of their parents....how can one politely teach kids that it's the right thing to send a thank you note?

free skin care · Tue Dec 30, 2008 6:19 pm

fawnie wrote:

I have always called or written the offenders to ask "Hey, did you get the ----I sent, or was it lost in the mail?" DH thinks that is begging for a thank you, but what do you think?

I don't look at that as begging for a thank you. I look at it as you are concerned whether they got the gift or not. I don't see anything wrong with asking that question if you have not heard a reply from them! Some people just don't think, hence why you are probably not getting "thank yous" from some!

free skin care · Tue Dec 30, 2008 6:50 pm

Fawnie, I have ranted on my website many times over this issue...and not just gifts either. Recently, a cosmetic surgeon asked me to send him some links from MMH, regarding divots, since he hadn't realized that the likely reason some of his patients had returned after blephs with divots under their eyes was because they had gone for radiofrequency treatments. I spent 2 hours finding the threads on that site and others and emailed them to him. NOT ONE WORD OF THANKS. So similar thing, do you email and ASK if he got them or is this "begging for a thank you"? It seems that people - no matter what educational level they have reached - have abandoned even the most obvious courtesies. I would definitely call and ask if the person in question received the gift. I didn't email the surgeon, of course, but I should have done.

Have a super New Year Smile

free skin care · Wed Dec 31, 2008 3:00 pm

Antonia, wow! what obscenely poor manners! You'd think if the MD didn't have time to thank you personally he would've had an assistant do it, at least.

Ah well. And then, to make it even worse, the emails that I send inquiring whether they have received the gifts go unanswered too. Hmmmm....next year's shopping is going to be a lot easier and less expensive!

Do you mind sharing on this forum what your website is? Judging from your posts, you do your homework and are quite well-informed! I always appreciate when you chime in here!

free skin care · Wed Dec 31, 2008 5:13 pm

Hi Fawnie, "obscenely bad manners" is right. The website on which I ranted actaully has nothing to do with skin. It's my lampwork glass website. (I'm a glass artist in my other life and occasionally make Venetian style beads.) I haven't updated the website for a while and it's atwww.whistlerlampwork.com People would email me saying they wanted to start melting glass and wanting to be a glass artist. Then they would ask me what I did to start up, how I learned the art, etc. I would spend hours writing long emails telling them everything I knew, and then (four times out of five) never so much as saw a "thank you for the info" reply. I was, quite frankly, disgusted. I wouldn't dream of asking for such detailed info in the first place, let alone not consider thanking the person who provided it. So I feel for you!

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