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Tue May 18, 2010 10:08 am  |
| Since marrying fifteen years ago, we've received graduation announcements every May, primarily from kids & grandchildren of people we have not heard from in many years, most of them people in my husband's past that I've never met. I've always mailed a $50 check or gift card. But today we're in receipt of yet another from a child we've never met, the grandchild of my husband's former boss from over twenty years ago! I recall sending my graduation announcements to close family and friends -- how do you guys feel about this? |
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Tue May 18, 2010 8:52 pm |
I would maybe just send a card and a gc to two movie tickets.
Don't really see why you need to send money to people you donot really know.
Heck some of my family does not even get Chrismas presents (or not much anyways,lol).
My stepbrother was too "lazy" to even send me a card.
I had a nice gift for him here (or it willgo to someone else, as it is not a lousy item (men'scosmetics, shaving stuff, perfume samples..tons).
Anyway,
I just gave him a bag of flavored cashew nuts from shopper drug mart brand (retail $9)
-they are quite tasty and not cheap quality.
Maybe send a $10 starbucks gc?
People who are too 'lazy' to contact other than for money...well they don't really need too much stuff.
Even just a congrats card is good enough as I'm sure they do not know the other people who got gifts
and u can start anew tradition of sending thank you cards. |
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Wed May 19, 2010 2:15 am |
This is definitely a US thing and not something that's done here in the UK, so I don't actually have experience of it. (People over here would only invite close family and friends to their graduation - no announcements sent out to all and sundry. Often an announcement in the local newspaper is placed instead.)
The optimist in me would argue that you may have been sent it out of courtesy, to keep in touch. However, the cynic would say that it's probably just fishing for gifts from all possible sources.
If it was regarding the son or daughter of someone you know and are still in touch with on a friendly basis, then it would be very different, and offering a present would be a nice touch if you wished to do so. But this person has such a tenuous link to you that I would just send a nice congratulations card with no gift card or money at all.
As I say, this is not part of our UK culture, so you may receive better advice from fellow US members. |
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Wed May 19, 2010 7:09 am |
When my son graduated, I only sent out announcements to close friends and relatives we keep up with. Or if someone had sent us one.
I feel it is in bad taste to "troll" for gifts/money.
We didn't even do that when my son got married. I said only those you would invite to the wedding or kept in touch with.
The rule of thumb we go by is, if you would want them there, then send it. |
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Joined the 50 club several years back, blonde w/ fair/sensitive skin, Texas humidity and prone to rosacea, light breakouts and sunburns, combo skin type, starting to see sundamage and fine lines |
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Wed May 19, 2010 7:50 am |
| I think this is cheeky to say the least. I'd ignore it. |
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Wed May 19, 2010 12:57 pm |
Common sense and trusting your insticts will tell you what to do.
I think even sending a gc is generous in this case. You have not spoken to the person sending it in eons and you've never met the intended*recipient*. Need I say more.
In this circumstance it's incredible that someone would even expect you to do anything. |
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Wed May 19, 2010 8:54 pm |
Hell no! If someone wanted to keep in touch, they should do it in another way. Like CALL or arrange a dinner/lunch or something! They are just trying to get gifts or money for their kid. It's pretty obvious. Think about it...
If your kid was graduating, would you invite everyone you've ever known?! |
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Thu May 20, 2010 7:48 am |
| Thanks everyone for your thoughts - I had pretty much the same reactions but wondered if I was being too harsh in my thinking! |
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Mon Aug 02, 2010 4:38 pm |
| You're not obligated to buy a gift for anyone you don't know or even know casually. Gosh if I had to buy a gift for every single occasion for family members I would always be broke. Don't even respond to these invitations. |
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