Embarrassing vaginal problem
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Sat May 07, 2005 5:56 am

I have a very embarrassing problem and was wondering if any one of you guys might have it too.

My whole genital region -- vagina, labia, perineum, inner thighs -- is very dark, almost black -- but I have light skin.

Very embarrsing and don't know what to do about it. Don't know if I was born with this or something that developed over time. And I've never had sex.

What are your thoughts?

Thanks!

free skin care · Sat May 07, 2005 6:38 am

I really wouldn't be worried about this Maria, I would say that it is genetic, looking at your name, I get the feeling that there are some Latino roots there Very Happy

Personally I think that you are very lucky, you have something to cherish, your virginity, you should be proud as whoever takes that will be extremely lucky, regardless of the colour Very Happy

Now I would only worry if you said your vagina was green Laughing

Sat May 07, 2005 7:22 am

depends on your race i guess!

by the sounds of things your latina or possibly affrican/carribean origin, in which case its common for those regions to be darker than the rest of your skin.

i expect your arm pits are darker than the rest of your skin too Smile

dont worry about the virin thing, im 21, male, a virgin, and FAR from being a nerd!!!! Very Happy

Sat May 07, 2005 3:46 pm

Don't worry at all, Maria! Mine are a bit darker as well, I think a lot of women have this. If you think, it's not the best looking part of human body but you accept it the way it is.

Sat May 07, 2005 8:19 pm

I was wondering about this subject myself, Im not latino but in general, does it getter darker in the inner thigh as we age? I havent noticed this when I was younger.

free skin care · Sat May 07, 2005 10:07 pm

I'm 47 and it hasn't changed for me.Still the same color..actually it's the same color as my body not darker.

It is normal to have that area darker for alot of women.

Blue

free skin care · Sun May 08, 2005 4:09 am

I read, in Cosmo, that a change in skin colour-to darker- on your inner thighs can be caused by weight gain.

free skin care · Sun May 08, 2005 7:45 am

Boy this is a good question, hard to answer though! Confused

Maria, I'm gonna agree with what the others have said, it may have to do with your skin type. Do you know of any other women (friends, family) whose skin is the same? Maybe you could somehow find out..?

As for weight gain and the skin getting darker..not sure on this one but, I'm petite, 5'3 100lbs and I have noticed in the past few years that the skin on my inner top thigh is darker. I'm 39 and my skin wasnt like this 4 years ago. I did bring it up to my derm earlier this year and he gave me no answer..just passed it off. Seems like he didnt think it was a big deal. Hmm..dunno. Good thing I don't walk around with my legs open...hehe Shock

I would try not to worry too much Maria and if it helps perhaps you could try some lemon juice on your inner thigh area only. This is "supposed" to brighten/exfoliate the skin.

Sun May 08, 2005 10:59 am

Thank you to EVERYONE who replied -- a feel a lot better now!

My armpits are actually the same colour as the rest of my body, it's only "down there" where it is really dark and ugly.

I still want to get rid of it though, just don't know if it's possible considering the area is so sensitive, I don't want to end up with permanent scarring.

I look at all those pics on the Internet of women who have lovely white or pink genitalia and wished mine looked the same.

Thanks guys, take care!

free skin care · Sun May 08, 2005 4:26 pm

Don't worry Maria!

You are perfectly normal and any guy that is going to be "down there" is going to be so happy and excited and think that you are the most beautiful girl in the world...if he doen't, he shouldn't be there in the first place...you understand Wink

. Take your time and wait for a man that you know loves YOU, and in the meanwhile, learn to love yourself and know that you are PERFECT and deserve the best! Very Happy

Mon May 09, 2005 1:29 am

Maria Isabel wrote:

I still want to get rid of it though, just don't know if it's possible considering the area is so sensitive, I don't want to end up with permanent scarring.

I look at all those pics on the Internet of women who have lovely white or pink genitalia and wished mine looked the same.

Thanks guys, take care!

ah, dont worry about it, i really dont think it would bother many guys TBH, think how boring life would be if we all looked the same?!

also, the ppl on the net are the best fo the best, always remember that, heck, its the same with us guys, the blokes on the net are all very, erm, impressive lol, but thats a highly distorted view!

Mon May 09, 2005 8:17 am

Maria Isabel

I believe it depends whether it has always been the same colour or it got darker lately.

For me, I have darker inner thighs (near "the area") after I gained weight, which annoyed me, as it shows when I wear swimming suit. I later found out it was due to the circulation wasn't good as my pants got tighter than before.

If your situation is similar, you may try:
- make sure underwear is not too tight
- wear more dress/skirt than pants, also nightdress/nightshirt instead of pj+pants/shorts
- sit in hot bath regularly(with or without bath salt)

However, I agree what others said, let's feel good about ourselves as who we really are. Wink

free skin care · Tue May 10, 2005 2:18 am

Maria Isabel wrote:

Thank you to EVERYONE who replied -- a feel a lot better now!

My armpits are actually the same colour as the rest of my body, it's only "down there" where it is really dark and ugly.

I still want to get rid of it though, just don't know if it's possible considering the area is so sensitive, I don't want to end up with permanent scarring.

I look at all those pics on the Internet of women who have lovely white or pink genitalia and wished mine looked the same.

Thanks guys, take care!

I'm glad you're feeling better from the posts.

What worries me is the wider issue of us looking at other peoples bits and thinking we're wrong. Where does that come from? Hell years ago the chances of us looking at other peoples genitalia were pretty slim.
If anyone in the UK caught the recent plastic surgery live..anal bleaching?

what is the world coming to when the colour of our tackle isn't good enough Sad

Not having a go at you MI, just the state of us socially where it has come to this. Confused

free skin care · Tue May 10, 2005 4:01 am

with you there Eve!
I saw a programme on genital plastic surgery Shock

The huge amount of ------------ all over the internet is making women feel abnormal about their genitals now and they have to be pink and 'neat'. How sad.

Maria Isabel, it isn't ugly, it is just different and you really do not want to start comparing yourself to ------------ actors, it just isn't healthy and if you start using lightening agents on your vaginal area, you really could make it look awful.

A man who loves you is not going to care if you conform to some unrealistic internet ------------ image of women (and lets face it, it is very unlikely that he will either!)

I am really starting to wonder if this whole beauty thing is just creating damaged and f***ed up individuals Sad

Tue May 10, 2005 10:13 am

[quote="guapagirl"]: The huge amount of ------------ all over the internet is making women feel abnormal about their genitals now and they have to be pink and 'neat'. How sad.

Maria Isabel, it isn't ugly, it is just different and you really do not want to start comparing yourself to ------------ actors, it just isn't healthy and if you start using lightening agents on your vaginal area, you really could make it look awful.

A man who loves you is not going to care if you conform to some unrealistic internet ------------ image of women (and lets face it, it is very unlikely that he will either!)

I am really starting to wonder if this whole beauty thing is just creating damaged and f***ed up individuals :([/quote]

Yeah I'm a severely deranged woman and I don't know what I'm talking about.

You must be really pretty huh guapa girl, calling yourself "guapa". Girls who are really pretty don't go around calling themselves guapa.

Tue May 10, 2005 10:25 am

[quote="Maria Isabel

Yeah I'm a severely deranged woman and I don't know what I'm talking about.[/quote]

u misunderastand, she wasn;t insulting you, but she was blaming society for making u worry about something which really doesn;t matter Smile

free skin care · Tue May 10, 2005 12:50 pm

My name is ironic maria! I profusely apologise if you felt I was insulting you. I am actually somewhat upset that you took it that way as I would never mean to insult or upset some one, so again I'm sorry.

As F-i-C said, I am angry at what society is doing to us. I have 2 teenage girls and it breaks my heart to know the pressures they have to contend with, that's what I meant by my last sentence.

I'll put the bitchy comment you made about my (ironic) name down to the fact that you misunderstood my post and were upset.

free skin care · Tue May 10, 2005 5:36 pm

Maria Isabel:

I'm sorry if you feel you were being attacked but that is definately not what this forum or these women are about, especially Guapagirl of all people. I'm sure you will soon find this to be one of the most compassionate, supportive and non-judgmental forums on the net. Hang around awhile, visit often and you'll see what I mean.

free skin care · Tue May 10, 2005 7:21 pm

Ditto what Penelope said...this a terrific, supportive form. Very Happy

I had to read the last few posts a few times as I didn't think Guapagirl was being insulting and thought maybe I read something incorrectly. Shock

Maria please know that most, if not all responses from members will be kind and as helpful as possible.

free skin care · Tue May 10, 2005 8:36 pm

I guess this is the biggest flaw with talking over the internet...miscommunication.

Just to add a little levity to this thread my Mom and I got into a pretty big argument (OK..a fight Sad

) over a chat we had over the net. A few smileys in the wrong place and accidentally having caps lock on caused a lot of miscommunication. She completely took something I said (typed) in the wrong way.

Maria Isabel, I think that's what happened here. Let's face it, this is a fragile topic that we're all a bit self-conscious about. I do agree that society has caused most of this issue. We compare ourselves to people we see on Tv, or magazines, and it's just not realistic. Most of the people we see in these pics look vastly different in real life.

HTH,
Stephanie Smile

free skin care · Wed May 11, 2005 1:58 am

steph2039 wrote:

We compare ourselves to people we see on Tv, or magazines, and it's just not realistic. Most of the people we see in these pics look vastly different in real life.

HTH,
Stephanie Smile

which when we think about it is really crazy, these people have personal trainers, dieticians, beauticians spend hours in make-up getting their hair fixed, the best photographers, their photos air-brushed to perfections.........and some of them still look as rough as a bear's arse. Cool

I love it when celeb's get snapped with no make-up etc..puts a little perspective on things.

You know how they get us..it's illusion, we know these images aren't real but just like the copperfield flying through the air we see it. It fugs the brain.

Thu May 12, 2005 3:09 pm

I've read somewhere that hormonal changes make some areas of our skin darker like when one's pregnant, her nipples can get darker. Maybe this is one reason too why the groin area becomes darker?

Also, friction from tight-fitting pants, underpants and sanitary napkins, esp those with "wings" are the culprits.

free skin care · Thu May 12, 2005 3:46 pm

I understand this is a very sensitive topic, but in part, it seems sensitive because it is yet another "made up" problem that society has created for us. (I do not mean to diminish anyone's feelings by my opening sentence).

We should just be thankful that everything works "down there". Some years back I did a graduate project on Female Genital Mutilation. This is a practice that has extreme health, both mental and physical, consequences and often leads to death from infection. It is often done to young women against their will. Over 100,000 women have had FGM performed on them...

Let us be thankful we are whole, whatever color we may be.
Joani

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