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Thu Dec 04, 2014 4:46 pm  |
Its a difficult one that, I am 37 and was asked for ID buying lighters in a supermarket last week which means the woman serving me (she looked about 50ish) must have thought I was under 18 which seems ridiculas really but I got a kick out of it at the time. I think age perception is a really odd one because often when I hear someone in their 20's say they look older or younger than they are I often think that at that age it is mostly differances in bone structure, style and weight that makes people look older or younger but its not really aging per say. I tend to think that for women its the mid to late 30's that aging starts to show up and its at that time if you have premature aging it begins to bite. I find that at my age everyone seems either much younger or older than me, I can't seem to pinpoint what 36 or 37 should look like. I discussed this with a male friend (who very kindly said I looked younger than my age, but then your friends see you don't see you objectively) that its at this age your lifestyle starts to catch up with you so you begin to see a big variation in how people the same age look. I have had the odd shock thinking someone infront of me at the doctors is maybe 10 years older but then when they have to give their date of birth they are the same age as me.
The true test of really "looking younger than you age" is if you can fool people younger than you, for example if people around your own age and older tell you that you look 24 at 35 the real test would be if people in their mid 20's perceived you as the same age as them, I think that is much harder to pull off.
I also think people judge age differently, for a lot if not most people weight and how you dress if probably the most important factor so that a very slender women in her 40's with wrinkles and sagging who wore stylish clothes and a young trendy hair style would be seen as younger than an overweight, dowdy women the same age, even if her skin was much nicer.
I always look at skin quality first and foremost but its an obsession of mine. It doesn't have to be wrinkle free but it does have to look healthy and so many people just cover up with make up and probably the majority of people just aren't looking that hard, just me!
I am more like the dowdy, overweight woman my skin is alright not really wrinkled but its been problematic from acne so its not as nice as I would like although my tria is helping with that. I think for me losing weight and improving my dress as well as being more consistant with my diet, skincare and sleep would probably give me a consistant appearance of around 28 - 30. I never drank booze, smoked or sunbathed in my life and have worn sunscreen since my early 20's as well as lived in a cloudy climate all my life so that as well as long use of retin a for acne has probably helped my skin from having too much premature aging so far.
I also think it is a different ball game when you get into your mid to late 40's and hormonal aging starts to really kick in, I think it is probably relatively easy to maintian and improve what you have in your 30's and early 40's and look younger but once you are going though menopause you are fighting a much harder battle. However if you can get things as good as they can be when you are younger it gives you a much better starting position for the long haul.
Then there is the aura of age which just seems to surround you even if you look totally young and wrinkle free I don't think you can really ascape that nor should you but it is wise to consider the vibe you are giving off because if it is a fed up, jaded vibe then you will seem older. I think things like mindfulness, yoga, breathing exercises, meditation, relaxation, good sex, being open minded and to keep trying new things are also things that make you feel and appear youthful, but its an ideal and not always possible to do it all.
For me I am continuing to stick to a programme of proven topicals retin a and vitamin c as well as products that restore the skins barrier (the so called corneotherapy, which I find deeply convincing) i.e. products that support they skins barrier function breathable oils and fats. Not to mention sunscreen.
I will continue to use at home devices tria laser and led and I want to incorporate more regular massage, cupping and some facial exercise into my daily routine.
Diet is so important so I try to eat a diet that is make up of low gi wholefoods, clean, and low in sugar with an emphasis on getting lots of good fats and antioxidents though food and supplements.
Lots of water and white tea and plenty of good quality sleep, the older I am the worse my skin looks if I don't get enough sleep which is annoying as staying up late is a bad habit of mine.
Exercise is also important and this is another area I do badly on there was a recent study which did say that regular moderate exercise can actually reverse skin aging which is incredible to me but a massive incentive.
The same applied to you face, I really don't buy the idea that you have to be so gentle with you skin it needs a bit of tough love to keep the blood flowing and the regenerative process moving. Tonya Zavasta makes this point but suggests that it won't work if you don't fill your body with lots of super healthy food to ensure those nutrients are able to get to the skin and I really think there is truth in that, for example, my tria results are much better on rounds where I am eating right while I use it.
As Trishapp points out above you need to be very consistant to get long lasting results, its not something you can do for a bit and everything is fixed, its a lifestyle commitment if you want the results to last. It too me a long time to get my head round that but my skin isn't a dented bit of wood I can get sanded down once in a while its a living breathing part of me that needs to be cared for daily. A lot of people can't make that commitment, I have to say I waver but I keep trying and am getting better at it. |
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Sat Dec 27, 2014 7:28 pm |
| Why would anyone want to be mistaken for a teenager? If you haven't updated your look since then, go to a good salon and ask for a hair and makeup makeover. Otherwise you risk being labeled "Mutton dressed as lamb." |
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Sun Dec 28, 2014 12:57 am |
MissLenaiya, your comment about genetics made me think... If we are genetically predisposed to age at a certain rate, no matter what products we use, or don't use, we cannot change our inbuilt age clock. Thus, apart from the basic skin care routine i.e sunscreen, moisturiser, we are throwing money away by using various other methods ( serums, derma rollers, peels, retin a etc... etc...)
Like I said before, I look much younger than my biological age, but it's hard to say whether this is down to my genetics or me using various methods. Hmmm... I do wonder whether I would look the same without applying my long-term skin care routine? |
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