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Sun Oct 07, 2007 4:44 pm  |
How can I tell? I really don't know. I like him and I think it's clouding my judgement. First, he was talking a mile a minute. He told me some stories about the important people he knew. It was like he was trying to impress me and was nervous or something. Who knows? Maybe he just had to go and pee real bad or something. What other cues can I look for? I saw him the other day and he was kind of playful with me. Cute. How can I find out if he's dating someone? I don’t want to ask him. Im too shy.
He flirts with me every time I see him. Luaghing at my dumb jokes and playfully slapping me on the hands.
I'm sad cuz he must know by now that I like him. I either stare at him or can't look him in the eye. And if he's not making a move there must be some reason for it, a gf, he doesn't want to ruin our business relationship, hes just not that into me, whatever
I know him through business. He's my natural health guy. So I'm his client really. That in itself makes me wonder if his flirting though is just cuz he doesn't want to lose a client. |
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Mon Oct 08, 2007 7:03 am |
| I don't really know what to tell you. I would hope if he was into you, he'd be mature enough just to ask you out. if he doesn't, just move on. I've had experience with cowardly guys who were into me but never asked me out; just wanted to flirt with me everyday or whenever they saw me. Let me tell you, that gets old. A real man will just come up to you, say he likes you, and will ask you out. Otherwise, they're just playing games or are chicken. |
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Mon Oct 08, 2007 8:59 am |
| Although I do like a bit of "courting" myself, I have to somewhat agree with Violetanne, this never ending flirting will get old very fast. Either he is too shy to come out and say anything, in which case you need to initiate it, or he flirts with all his clients. If I were you I would just come right out and ask, that way its it clearly defined regardless of the outcome. |
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Tue Oct 09, 2007 10:03 am |
Yeah, I agree, someone needs to pee or get off the pot, as they say.
Men!
I'm too nervous to ask him...what if he feels pressured b/c I'm his client? or if he has NO attraction to me whatsoever and is grossed out by the suggestion?
Whatever...I'm done with him. Too much aggravation. |
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Tue Oct 09, 2007 2:07 pm |
| I'd invite him to do something that friends do - like grab a cup of coffee or something - nothing heavily date-like or romantic. If he is interested he will jump at the chance (and you can see how it goes from there), if he isn't then you have your answer. |
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Tue Oct 09, 2007 4:27 pm |
| This guy seems like an invitation to a headache later on. I prefer a straight-forward guy who is not afraid to ask a girl out. I'm old-fashioned that way. Flirting can be fun, but showing a girl that he's man enough to not be afraid of a rejection will win me over. But he should not even think of rejections since you said you gave him enough clues that you like him. |
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Tue Oct 09, 2007 6:09 pm |
Yeah... the more I think about it the more I realize I'm a dip for waiting on him. He recently told me that (he's divorced) he married his first wife 3 months after meeting her.
Apparently he moves fast when he wants to. |
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Wed Oct 10, 2007 3:05 pm |
| Well, I wonder if he might be feeling the same way that you do in terms of being confused and worried about asking you out. After all, you're his client so perhaps he has the same fears and reservations you do. I think Chimera's suggestion is great - invite him to something fairly normal and non-date-like, perhaps also when others are coming, and see what happens. Try to identify some common interests, movies that he would like to see, etc and then do the "Hey, btw, my friends and I are going to X this weekend if you'd like to join". |
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Thu Oct 11, 2007 6:03 pm |
| Yes, he might be as nervous as I am. |
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Sat Oct 13, 2007 1:46 pm |
| Aaaarrrggghhh... I got so close today to asking him if he had a girlfriend. But I punked out. I was really close for a second there. |
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Sat Oct 20, 2007 1:31 pm |
Changed my mind again...I asked him out! Ok, via email, and his work email at that. But I did it!!!!
I know some have said if he likes me, he'd ask. But I had to take the risk just to see what happens. |
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Sat Oct 20, 2007 5:22 pm |
Wow, that's bold of you! You go! Keep us posted.  |
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Mon Oct 22, 2007 11:54 pm |
| I am a little late, but please do keep us updated |
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Tue Oct 23, 2007 6:28 pm |
well....he said no...here's his reply
"Thank you so much for the wonderful note. I appreciate you taking the change to express. I think you are a wonderful person as well. That being said, I can not date any clients, even if I wish to! [In other words, he doesn't want to] I know that it is the best for me and any client, that that does not happen.. So, thank you so much. You may trust that this will not in any way affect our relationship moving forward regarding your health care."
Now Im confused.....he's acted like he was interested for weeks. Maybe that really was his way of just keep a client coming back....
And he told me he was originally his first wife's client!!
oh well.....Now Im sad!!!! |
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Tue Oct 23, 2007 6:53 pm |
| Aw, TooInvolved, don't worry -- there probably IS a lot of truth to his statement, because even if he's comfortable having a relationship with a client, who knows how his employers feel, etc. Either way, I know it sucks to be rejected no matter how gently, but eventually try and chalk it up to good practice! It'll make you more confident in interacting with guys who are free and interested back with no constraints. Sorry to hear it didn't work out, but I'm rooting for ya. |
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Tue Oct 23, 2007 7:02 pm |
| ginnielizz wrote: |
| Aw, TooInvolved, don't worry -- there probably IS a lot of truth to his statement, because even if he's comfortable having a relationship with a client, who knows how his employers feel, etc. Either way, I know it sucks to be rejected no matter how gently, but eventually try and chalk it up to good practice! It'll make you more confident in interacting with guys who are free and interested back with no constraints. Sorry to hear it didn't work out, but I'm rooting for ya. |
thank you!!!! I think he runs the place though -either owns the company or just the franchise. Im a bit more hurt b/c he seemed to like me back so now Im questioning my judgement in this area, in addition to my disappointment. |
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Tue Oct 23, 2007 11:09 pm |
| TooInvolved wrote: |
And he told me he was originally his first wife's client!!
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Well, I guess he's learned from experience that dating clients doesn't work?
I'm sorry he said no, but at least now you know where things are headed. Kudos to you for having the guts to ask him out! |
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Tue Oct 23, 2007 11:55 pm |
| I am so sorry it didn't work out, but it's his loss really. time to move on to other men |
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Sun Oct 28, 2007 6:59 pm |
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| I am so sorry it didn't work out, but it's his loss really. time to move on to other men |
Yes! Still annoyed about it but moving on... |
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Tue Oct 30, 2007 9:26 am |
TooInvolved...Get the Book "He's Just Really Not That Into You." It's quite sobering! There are 100's of examples of scenerio's where it seems like the guy is interested, but there isn't any follow through. The response (from the Author) is always the same: "He's really not that into you." He explains, if a guy wants to get to know you, wants to be with you, he will make every effort to do that, ask you out, call you, etc....if he doesn't, well, he's not into you. I was shocked and bummed to read in the book that men polled DO NOT want women asking them out, and that generally, that is a turn off. I am a very assertive woman, and have no problem doing that, so this was a bummer to hear...however, I admit, everyone I've ever asked out, didn't take the bait.  Here's a link to read about the book. I gotta tell ya, its empowering!
http://www.usatoday.com/life/books/excerpts/2004-09-08-hes-just_x.htm |
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Tue Oct 30, 2007 4:13 pm |
Yep, that is sobering.
Then why do they act like they're interested?
Guess I'll have to get the book...Thanks. |
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