Going through horrible times...
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free skin care · Tue Oct 19, 2010 1:46 am

I'm really sorry to hear how you're feeling, cortigirl.

You will get through it, but you have to hang on in there. It's not easy, but it is possible.

I kept reminding myself how much my family and friends would miss me if I wasn't around anymore, and I just couldn't bring myself to do that to them.

Also, bear in mind the fact that nothing lasts forever - and this refers to the bad things as well as to the good. So the awful way you're feeling and the events which are making you feel that way will come to an end. You mentioned "the light at the end of the tunnel" - always remember that it is there, it exists and you will eventually see it again.

Sometimes my grandmother's words helped me. She used to tell me that if something is meant to be, then it will happen; if it's not meant to be, then it won't. Accept this with good grace, but also strive to make the best of things. I learnt how to something good out of terrible situations though this (eg, since I could hardly walk anymore, I took it as the opportunity to finally learn how to swim.)

I'm not sure of the specifics of why you're feeling so bad at the moment, but it can help to learn that others have been through the same kind of thing and survived. The way I look at it is: if they can do it, then so can I.

I hope that things will work out okay for you soon, but please do pop back here anytime you need to talk.

xxxx

free skin care · Tue Oct 19, 2010 3:42 am

My sister died under very terrible circumstances four years ago. He fiance didn't take her to the hospital in time (she had diabetes), and she passed away, 34 years old. I held her hand at the hospital and still today the feeling are so unreal, I cant quite grap the situation yet.
She was my everything, my best friend, the person that inspired me, talked to her every day.. She lived 8 hours away, so we didn't meet so often as I would.

I fell down the deepest, blackest hole there is. I got physically sick, I still am, I have problems with my joints. I getting better for every day. we it just happened I wanted to die, I couldn't see anything worth living for. That was my feeling, and I think it a natural feeling for someone who has gone throw something very painful and indescribable.
I don't want to die, I don't want the rest of my family to go thought that pain again.

Today, my life has taken another direction. I have meet a wonderful guy (I was in a bad relationship when she died, and I hadn't the energy to brake me loose from him until some healing started)
My body has finally started to heal.
I have a tighter and more frequent relationship to my father. We never had any bonds to each other before she died. This spring, when my sister would have been 40 years old, my oldest sister, my father of 75 and me are going to a 14 days trip to Japan. The first trip we four ever do.

There are hope, and I don't know what you are going throw. BUT, you have to talk with somebody, you can't deal with it yourself.

Someone that also had lost his sister suddenly (suicide) told me when it just had happened, "You will always feel the pain - it will always be with you - but you will learn to live Whit it."
And that is how it really is.

Excuse my bad English, not easy to talk about feeling in a foreign language.

free skin care · Wed Oct 20, 2010 9:37 am

DM...me too.

Cortigirl...we're worried about you. You're not alone, no matter what it is, people care.

Whatever it is...you will get through it. It's just what happens, one foot in front of the other no matter how horrible the situation...you can do it.

Hope you are not feeling too lonely, I say that, only because I would have to be in a pretty bad place inside to post something so scary to a bunch of people I don't know too well. And that's ok, I hope you know that.

We are worried about you,...so please...come back and talk to us. We're here for you.

free skin care · Thu Oct 21, 2010 9:31 pm

If I remember anything of being in the state it sounds like she's in, too many things were swirling. Everything had piled up and needed doing and I could barely muster up the energy to put one foot in front of the other, nevermind reassure people I was ok, which seemed like additional pressure. So if she isn't responding, she probably just doesn't have the energy to compose the type of response she'd like to, is all.

I'm saying this because I think its most probably the truth, and to try to lessen your worry. Lets take it as good news that she'd logged on and obviously found that so many sweet hearted people do care!

And Cortigirl, they're all right you know... it really does get better, and you'll get through this.

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